Such a hilarious question that I will answer with another question. Theres a specific number of dates? News to me.
I have been Married for 40 years and our first date was April 4,1970. My wife said guys think sex is job one. My son and I agree. My 36 year old son said Women will give you "the look" before you can cruise into their space. Since your date declared a perimeter fence was established, I agree with you that she really does not want sex as a primary part of your "relationship". Guys think date and women think relationships.
If she's the one, then yes...if you can't stop thinking about her and want a relationship then she's just holding out for that...if she's just a casual date that you'd like to sleep with......move on or get used to spending money just to go home and jerk off....5 dates with blue balls or a hooker who won't ask your name
The old joke is....you know why women smile in wedding photos? They're thinking about all the things they'll never have to do again....if she's cut you off before getting started, doesn't bode well for after the vows.
Okay, what you gotta do is hang out with her and her mom again and like talk them into a duo beej. I've seen this play out nicely in a 'movie'.
Invite her to go to the beach for the weekend. If she asks for separate rooms then wait a day and call it off. If she asks for separate beds then go but you should talk with her. If she doesn't mention the sleeping arrangements then just be normal and take things naturally. Going out of town can take the pressure off of things.
Maybe the problem is that she's turned on by the big brown van and the brown shorts, and the after-work you isn't so exciting. You need to get her into the van during work hours. barfo
I know, a lot of nerds like yourself who don't know the first thing about getting laid. I should have known better....Sometimes when I drink I get on a soap box, though. Got to knock that off.
I just really badly wanted to screw this chick because she had a body that was banging and just seemed so pure and untouched. Its whatever though. On a separate note, would you guys ever sleep with a co-worker that is on the management side of things? Aka the evil enemy? This office chick at my work is jones-ing for the D. Its a big no-no. Which makes it kinda hot.
Longtime married guy here too. I dated a lot and waited a long time before I got married. What I would say is that, more broadly speaking, you two likely have different values. Depends on what your looking for. But 5 dates tells you something more about her than she's just prudish I think, and that alone is a big issue. Second question - Do Not fool around with management at work unless you are OK with getting canned.
He's union and she's management so it would be her getting canned. All he has to say is he felt pressured to do it.
Yeah. Usually I have to just do dinner instead of a bar. If I do diner I like to go to tapas/shared plates kind of joints, it kind of builds more of a connection. Things like walking around Venice is still in play because you don't need alcohol, there are shops and other assorted things to look around at. I'll still drink though.
too much effort for someone you're not fucking. just spend the money and energy for someone new at that point.