Hey! Now you're editing my posts! WTH??? Lol (sorry about the extra work I made for you, but I just thought it was kinda funny....)
I will say this, something about Collins face makes me wanna punch it. Just has that "punch me" look.
I think the real question is, why did his parents allow him to have a Twitter account at age 14/15, and allow that content to go unchecked? If my (comparably aged) daughter posted anything like that, I would ensure it got deleted immediately, because I find it unacceptable.
LOL! You didn't hide shit from your parents when you were 14/15? So you watch what she snapchats or any of the multiple apps that hide or delete posts after being sent? Or the apps that hide apps from snooping parents?
I had stolen most of my dad's Hustler mags at that point, every kid has secrets from their parents. I also wasn't allowed to have a Myspace account and did, I was also talking to you losers at Oregonlive, although Idk if that was allowed or not.
My daughter can't add apps to her phone because of a parental control app I've installed. She doesn't have any social media except Facebook. She doesn't have the password. I do. She doesn't have web access on her phone, or unsupervised at home. Perhaps I'm draconian, but I call it responsible parenting.
And she's not using her BFF's old smartphone when she's at school? Not an open wifi in the neighborhood? Maybe got a password from a parent when she was babysitting for them? You only have 10 fingers, you can't plug all the holes in a teenager's dike.
I see her friends' accounts too. If she had another account, she'd be on their friends lists, otherwise what's the point? (Maybe she has a alias?!) The network isn't the issue. She has no unfettered access to web enabled devices at home. (But at school...!) The parents she's babysat for are as strict as us if not stricter. Quite simply, my daughter has no practice being deceptive. I was a much worse kid than she ever has been. Parental deception takes practice. You fail at it multiple times before you figure it out. Unless my daughter is a criminal mastermind who simply figured out how to hide all traces of unapproved online persona on the first try, the expectations that have been set are being followed. HOWEVER, we've gotten far afield of the actual topic. It's not as though these tweets of Collins' are on some deeply buried account under a clever pseudonym that were uncovered by a deep dive from a private investigator specializing in web forensics. They were on a public account under his name. In my mind, allowing that kind of crap from a 14-year-old is bad parenting. I don't think that's an unreasonable position.
Be honest, is your daughter smarter or dumber than you. If smarter there is a 50/50 chance a boy has already seen pictures of her boobs. If dumber there is a 60/40 chance the entire school has already seen pictures of her boobs. Sleep well.
Dumber (slightly), though also significantly more modest than any of her friends. I doubt she's even looked at her own boobs. She's not even willing to read BNM's posts.
Possibly. I think ensuring that kids have zero privacy and no contact to the world that isn't strictly monitored (and deleted if it seems inappropriate to the parent) isn't the healthiest state, either. I'm not sure Collins' parents should have had his Twitter account locked down, or made sure to delete his inappropriate comments. I'd consider responsible parenting to at least follow what your (I mean "your" in the generic sense, not literally your daughter) kid is tweeting (which can obviously be done without having control of the account) and discussing problematic things he/she might say with him/her. Parents really can't forcibly kill any particular type of behavior--they can only ensure the kid hides it from them if they try. In my opinion, the best thing to do is to engage with them as people (especially once they've hit their teens--I'm not talking about reasoning with 5 year olds) and try to influence their thinking in responsible ways, IMO.
Understandable. However, if your kid is also not mature enough to realize the negative aftereffects that posts like that can have, even after said conversation, and act accordingly, then that kid is clearly not mature enough to have a Twitter account. Different parenting philosophies for different people, obviously.
Does he get a pass? A pass to do what? Not get called a homophobe by bored people? He was 14. This thread is a joke. Go work for the National Enquirer, or better yet, a political campaign.
