I have a friend who had her child taken away because of abuse. She was divorced and had two kids. Her ex husband had to pay $800 per month on child support that he never paid. Because of this, my friend had to work two jobs to support her family. She left the kids with a baby sitter every day for 2 hours when her or her mother, who helped her, couldn't watch them. One day the baby sitter, which hshe had used hundreds of times called to tell her the baby had fallen and hit it's head. Long story short, the baby sitter had actually hit the baby with a hair brush and killed the child. My friend had her other daughter taken away and given to the piece of shit ex husband. I mean he is the reason she had to have a sitter anyway. The good news is that when the child turned 13 she asked the courts to place her back with her mom, and they granted it.
Thank you sir. I cried. I let it all out. A social worker came in and took a walk around the hospital with me. I just let it all go. I felt a lot better. My sister came and watched Alec for me and I went home. I ran about 5 miles this morning, took a shower and came back to my son. I feel a lot better. You are right. Thank you sir for your kind words. Oh my goodness, that is a terrible story This is why I really need to get full parenting time. I do not trust my son to be with anyone else, especially his mothers boyfriend. Thank you sir. -- Update, we did another XRay on his entire body to make sure we didn't miss any small fractures. Also going to do a "quick" MRI (they said it does not require sedation and it will be fast) and then they will analyze the data. I asked them not to tell me if we are being discharged until they have the paperwork in their hands ready for me to sign. I also apologized to the doctors staff last night for losing my cool. They all comforted me and made me feel better. This is a really great hospital. Just sometimes the communication is bad. Other than that, they are really great.
Don't worry about losing your cool, Dante. Totally understandable under the circumstances. I'm so glad your son is doing better. I hope that loser who hurt him gets exactly what he deserves.
When my brother got his divorce, I told him to get a lawyer, and to go through proper channels with his child support. He said something very close to "no, we get along very well and are very civil." He paid child support for (IIRC) three years at an agreed-to level. Then, she lost what little she had left of her mind, and went to the state in an effort to raise the level of support. When they found out that he had been sending checks directly to her, he learned that since the payments didn't go through them, that he owed her not only the difference between what he was paying and what they felt he should pay, but also every cent he had already paid her. He produced checks, and even submitted a notarized letter from her stating that he had indeed paid what he said he paid, but it didn't do any good. Then, rather than take the money through the state and filter it back to him under the table, she instead forced him to the brink of bankruptcy so she could get a nicer car. Long story short: Get a lawyer. Fast.
Holy crap, when I did have to pay child support, I was paying her cash every month. So according to the courts, I haven't paid her a dime, huh?! Good thing I got a receipt book and made her sign and date each time I gave her money. And good thing her and I get along fine too. She said she would sign the backdated termination of child support papers. She even offered to get a second job to help pay for day care for me. And guess... what?!??!??! We get to go home tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hooray!
Congrats man! That's a good feeling getting back home after something like that. Here's hoping you and your son sleep well for a couple days before having to deal with reality.
Glad to hear you are getting to go home! That's great news. On the child support issue, whether you could have a problem depends on the fine print of the divorce decree. People think they have an oral agreement on how payment should be made, but many jurisdictions automatically include language in the official decree requiring payment to go through the state. When in doubt, the official decree wins!
So I hate to but have to ask you Dante...Do the doctors think your son is mentally okay? Did the bleed put enough pressure on the brain to harm it? I hope and pray it didnt...
They do not foresee any long term effects. I asked them if there would be any learning disabilities or anything like that. They said absolutely not. He has nothing to worry about. It's weird too... I been teaching him new words and colors and stuff while we were in the hospital. I would estimate his vocabulary at about 45 words now. And he is only 21 months! Alecs doctor said that is normal to above normal for a 2 year old. And I just ordered the www.yourbabycanread.com (the screwed up my order 2 weeks ago, so I had to re-order) and that should be here Friday! I am going to get him started on that. I will post videos of him reading like on that site. Freaking crazy stuff!!!
Reading is overrated, you should be looking for www.yourbabycandunk.com or www.yourbabycanbeaNFLquarterback.com . Leave the whole teaching him to read thing to the public schools
Maybe he's in jail? Anybody who threatens another poster like he did, and then afterward gets out of his car to scream at a homeless guy for being homeless, is probably a bit of a disaster waiting to happen. Throw in his racist rants, and it's amazing he wasn't perma-banned from S2.
