I'm sick of girl trouble. figured i'd make a thread about it. </p> Right now, I've got an annoying ex-girlfriend who is still in love with me and who I hate, a girl as a bestfriend who I'm practically in love with, and another girl as a friend, who, swear to god, has the most amazing eyes in the world (i'm a sucker for nice eyes).</p> I wish the ex would stop talking to me. I still have feelings for her, but I just want to get over her. I'm pretty sick of the situation, and sick of her. Though every time I do attempt to cut off contact with her, she attempts to rekindle things, and I have to look like a complete asshole in rejecting her. </p> I wish i knew how the best friend thought about me. I'd like to go out with her, I think there's possibilities with her...but I have no clue if she's the least bit interested in me. There's so many good qualities about her...she's great to talk to, down to earth, pretty chill, beautiful, hot....i feel like i could go on and on about her. </p> I wish I could go out with the other girl, just to see what's good with that. She seems like a fun girl, and she's pretty as hell.</p> Anyone else have girl trouble, or wish to tell about their girl situations? I love hearing about this kind of stuff. </p>
My completely unfounded advice is that the best friend has no clue you're into her and thinks of you only as a friend. If she didn't, you'd know. Ask the other girl out. You might have a really good time and you might also find out about the friend. Alternatetively, start planning scenarios where you get really drunk with both of them.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'> I've got an annoying ex-girlfriend who is still in love with me and who I hate</p></div> This looks like a job for Misogyny Man! (trumpet)</p> Well seriously, its gonna be hard for anybody to give you profound advice since theres no way we can read the situation like you can, and the best 'tells' are the little things. I think if memory serves me right you're younger than me? In highschool it's tough to be stuck in the friend zone, but if you wanna stretch the boundaries a bit go ahead and don't be afraid to be more flirtatious (anything that can drop subtle hints about your intentions while not completely leaving yourself vulnerable emotionally); see if you get any signals back. A bit of a warning: take it from a guy who hooked up with his best friend, and it kinda soured the relationship. I think guys and girls can be BFF's but its hard to remain strictly buddies once you cross that line...</p> As for the ex, you can always hook up with her and stay non-committed. While you would be leading her on, and you would be manipulating her emotional insecurities for your own shallow physical needs...you do hate her so who gives a F? </p>
I've learnt from experience that you may feel as though you have feelings towards a girl friend,butyouusuallyjusthaveyourfeelingconfusedwithsomthingelse.Ionlyhaveasmallcircleofproperfriends,and3ofthemaregirls,Ilovethemallandwoulddoanythingforanyofthem,howevertheloveIfeelforthemisdifferenttothekindofloveyouhavetowardsapartner,Ioftenquestionedmyfeelingsattimestoo,butintheendIcametothisconclusion.I know what its like, you love spending time with those girls, you have fun together, laugh, cry, it seems like the perfect base for a relationship, although sometimes things are better left as they are.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (GMJigga)</div><div class='quotemain'><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'> I've got an annoying ex-girlfriend who is still in love with me and who I hate</p></div> This looks like a job for Misogyny Man! (trumpet)</p> Well seriously, its gonna be hard for anybody to give you profound advice since theres no way we can read the situation like you can, and the best 'tells' are the little things. I think if memory serves me right you're younger than me? In highschool it's tough to be stuck in the friend zone, but if you wanna stretch the boundaries a bit go ahead and don't be afraid to be more flirtatious (anything that can drop subtle hints about your intentions while not completely leaving yourself vulnerable emotionally); see if you get any signals back. A bit of a warning: take it from a guy who hooked up with his best friend, and it kinda soured the relationship. I think guys and girls can be BFF's but its hard to remain strictly buddies once you cross that line...</p> As for the ex, you can always hook up with her and stay non-committed. While you would be leading her on, and you would be manipulating her emotional insecurities for your own shallow physical needs...you do hate her so who gives a F? </p> </div> </p> Fudge.......
I've literally slammed the door shut while a crying ex was on the other side. A man's gotta do what ....</p> I've got 99 problems,</p>
1) Break off all contact with your annoying ex. That's what I do whenever I dump a girl and they bug the shit out of me. Pretty soon she'll start to move on or just think you're a jerk and not the same person she fell in love with. Ignoring definitely works.</p> </p> 2) Talk to your best friend. Also, look for subconcious signs of attraction that girls give off when they're with guys that they're interested in. This means hair touching, adjusting her clothing, or messing with something in her hands. These always work and if she does this a lot around you, you're good to go. Does she even know you're interested though? Like, do you flirt with her and stuff or is it too awkward since you're best friends?</p> </p> 3) Other hott girl will be Plan B. Go after the best friend and if that doesn't work out, go after Ms. Sexy Eyes. haha</p> </p> Right now, I'm talking to this girl that I really like and she's like crazy about me. Makes me kinda nervous though because I don't like getting into relationships where the girl likes me a lot more than I like her. I don't know, I'll probably start going out with this girl this weekend and see how it goes. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Shookem)</div><div class='quotemain'> I've literally slammed the door shut while a crying ex was on the other side. A man's gotta do what ....</p> I've got 99 problems,</p></div> You're my hero.</p>
A lot going on there for you and it can be overwhelming, but you have to step back and realize you're in control of all those situations.</p> The reason you keep talking to your ex is because you still have some feelings for her. If you want to move on from her it's simple, tell her you're dating other people and tell her to stop calling.</p> For the best friend/girl you are in love with, you have to ask yourself is the friendship worth risking over dating this girl? Not to say you won't be best friends if it dosn't work out down the line, but it will be awkward for the both of you if she doesn't like you the way you like her. Maybe you can get a better read on her by talking about dating other girls. See how she reacts. If she starts making negative comments it likely means you just made her jealous and that means she probably has interest in you.</p> I'd definitely pursue the girl with sexy eyes. </p> Juggle both girls until you figure out what you want.</p> </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Shookem)</div><div class='quotemain'> I've literally slammed the door shut while a crying ex was on the other side. A man's gotta do what ....</p> I've got 99 problems, </p></div> </p> my ex is a psycho. i went to wal mart wit my friends to go on a snack run, and that was the night i broke up with her. she literally drove all the way to wal mart and came there, crying and everything. embarrassing as hell. i hadda tell her off. i told her to go home, and went off and had a pretty fun night with my friends.</p> biggest drama queen on earth, swear to god.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (GMJigga)</div><div class='quotemain'><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'> I've got an annoying ex-girlfriend who is still in love with me and who I hate</p></div> This looks like a job for Misogyny Man! (trumpet)</p> Well seriously, its gonna be hard for anybody to give you profound advice since theres no way we can read the situation like you can, and the best 'tells' are the little things. I think if memory serves me right you're younger than me? In highschool it's tough to be stuck in the friend zone, but if you wanna stretch the boundaries a bit go ahead and don't be afraid to be more flirtatious (anything that can drop subtle hints about your intentions while not completely leaving yourself vulnerable emotionally); see if you get any signals back. A bit of a warning: take it from a guy who hooked up with his best friend, and it kinda soured the relationship. I think guys and girls can be BFF's but its hard to remain strictly buddies once you cross that line...</p> As for the ex, you can always hook up with her and stay non-committed. While you would be leading her on, and you would be manipulating her emotional insecurities for your own shallow physical needs...you do hate her so who gives a F? </p> </div> i hate the dreaded "friend zone".</p> and i already went into a friends with benefits sorta thing with my ex, but that didn't work out...i guess that's just not for me. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Swish)</div><div class='quotemain'> 1) Break off all contact with your annoying ex. That's what I do whenever I dump a girl and they bug the shit out of me. Pretty soon she'll start to move on or just think you're a jerk and not the same person she fell in love with. Ignoring definitely works.</p> </p> 2) Talk to your best friend. Also, look for subconcious signs of attraction that girls give off when they're with guys that they're interested in. This means hair touching, adjusting her clothing, or messing with something in her hands. These always work and if she does this a lot around you, you're good to go. Does she even know you're interested though? Like, do you flirt with her and stuff or is it too awkward since you're best friends?</p> </p> 3) Other hott girl will be Plan B. Go after the best friend and if that doesn't work out, go after Ms. Sexy Eyes. haha</p> </p> Right now, I'm talking to this girl that I really like and she's like crazy about me. Makes me kinda nervous though because I don't like getting into relationships where the girl likes me a lot more than I like her. I don't know, I'll probably start going out with this girl this weekend and see how it goes. </p></div> </p> i'm loving all this input, thanks guys!!</p> 1 is what i've been trying to do, but the bitch keeps talking to me haha. it's been about 3 or 4 days since she last tried to annoy me, now i'm hoping this will last...forever.</p> 2 sounds great. i always wonder how you could tell if a girl likes you...i went to lunch with her today, she looked BEAUTIFUL. hair was all curly lookin good n shit, and she was wearin some cute clothes...since i hadn't seen her in a few days, i ran up n hugged her, made me smile like hell haha.</p> okay...does she know i like her? (let's just call her "krystal".) i'm not too sure. just about every time i'm drunk, i tell krystal i've liked her since i met her. for some reason, she just blows it off and says "you were drunk its nothin". just that seems to me like she isn't interested, but who knows. </p> i haven't actually come out and told her i like her, but she knows i "used to" like her. i talk to her best friend, and hang out with her sometimes, and one night when i was with her i actually came out and told her i had strong feelings for krystal. this was actually when i was going out with my ex, and my ex found a text message referring to how i like krystal, and that brought hell.</p> she flirts with alot of guys...she just likes flirting (definitely not a whore, barely makes out with guys and still a virgin).</p> and 3....exactly what i was thinking haha. i feel bad calling her "plan B" tho haha.</p> </p> and your story sounds like my friend's...girl was crazy about him, he liked her but not as much, and now he's practically in love with her. i know everyone's different, but who knows, maybe this could turn out really good. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (shapecity)</div><div class='quotemain'> A lot going on there for you and it can be overwhelming, but you have to step back and realize you're in control of all those situations.</p> The reason you keep talking to your ex is because you still have some feelings for her. If you want to move on from her it's simple, tell her you're dating other people and tell her to stop calling.</p> For the best friend/girl you are in love with, you have to ask yourself is the friendship worth risking over dating this girl? Not to say you won't be best friends if it dosn't work out down the line, but it will be awkward for the both of you if she doesn't like you the way you like her. Maybe you can get a better read on her by talking about dating other girls. See how she reacts. If she starts making negative comments it likely means you just made her jealous and that means she probably has interest in you.</p> I'd definitely pursue the girl with sexy eyes. </p> Juggle both girls until you figure out what you want. </p> </div></p> That's pretty much what I've been doing since i stopped talking to my ex.</p> </p> i'll try talking to my best friend about the other girl, and see how she reacts. she's different...she'll probably react to it like it's nothing, because that's how she is. she likes to hide her feelings all the time, she's not a girl that wears her emotions on her sleeve. she barely cries, she's probably cried twice this year. so it might be tough to gauge her reaction.
Yeah, I had a crazy ex before too and it was so annoying. I would be with my friends and she would call me like 10 times in one night. After awhile, I just stopped answering my phone and stuff and she moved on (thank God). </p> I've also been in the same spot as you with the best friend thing. Like, I had this one really really good friend who was a girl and I had always kinda had a thing for her. It was more complicated though because she had dated my best guy friend who is like my brother for 7 months so she was basically off limits for two reasons, guy code and being my best friend. I remember one night though she called me and was like I need to tell you something, and then she was like nevermind, nevermind, forget it. Then I'm like no what, and she told me she liked me and had for awhile. Both of us always felt the same way but we had never said anything about it because we didn't want it to be awkward. We went out and stuff and while it didn't work out, I'm glad I tried and gave it a shot because if I didn't, I would still wonder what would have happened to this day. </p> I'm just saying, if you like her that much and she's that good of a friend to you, telling you that you like her won't ruin your friendship. She'll either tell you that she likes you too or to just stay friends and stuff. She's not going to flat out stop talking to you if that's what you're afraid of, a real friend wouldn't do that. Also, if she likes flirting that much, just start flirting with her a lot. That way she'll know you're interested and start considering what a possible relationship with you would be like. Girls overthink EVERYTHING so if you start flirting with her a lot, she'll definitely notice and think about it.</p> Oh and about that other girl, we can call her Plan A and a half if that makes you feel better haha. </p> I hope things work out. She's really cool and stuff and she's really easy to talk to and stuff. I don't know, we'll see.</p> </p>
Me and 2 of my ex's are cool but 1 completely hates me. This is why.</p> I went out with her because to be fair i really liked her best friend and i kind of settled with her when i realised she was outta my league. So anyway I'm the girl i really want Party. I'm Blind drunk and so is my Girlfriend. So i go for a piss as you do and the girl i really fancy is waiting at the door. Me and her both out of it we get off/Make out/ Snog, Whatever you call it. I wake up in the morning with THE biggest hangover ever on the floor. I take what i though was my can of Stella and take a swig but what i didn't realise was it was full of Ciggerette ash. I find my Girlfriend on the sofa with some random guy and even though she might not of done anything with him i saw it as an excuse and Ended it there. Now i'm with her best friend and she hates me for it.</p> Oh Well</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Swish)</div><div class='quotemain'> Yeah, I had a crazy ex before too and it was so annoying. I would be with my friends and she would call me like 10 times in one night. After awhile, I just stopped answering my phone and stuff and she moved on (thank God). </p> I've also been in the same spot as you with the best friend thing. Like, I had this one really really good friend who was a girl and I had always kinda had a thing for her. It was more complicated though because she had dated my best guy friend who is like my brother for 7 months so she was basically off limits for two reasons, guy code and being my best friend. I remember one night though she called me and was like I need to tell you something, and then she was like nevermind, nevermind, forget it. Then I'm like no what, and she told me she liked me and had for awhile. Both of us always felt the same way but we had never said anything about it because we didn't want it to be awkward. We went out and stuff and while it didn't work out, I'm glad I tried and gave it a shot because if I didn't, I would still wonder what would have happened to this day. </p> I'm just saying, if you like her that much and she's that good of a friend to you, telling you that you like her won't ruin your friendship. She'll either tell you that she likes you too or to just stay friends and stuff. She's not going to flat out stop talking to you if that's what you're afraid of, a real friend wouldn't do that. Also, if she likes flirting that much, just start flirting with her a lot. That way she'll know you're interested and start considering what a possible relationship with you would be like. Girls overthink EVERYTHING so if you start flirting with her a lot, she'll definitely notice and think about it.</p> Oh and about that other girl, we can call her Plan A and a half if that makes you feel better haha. </p> I hope things work out. She's really cool and stuff and she's really easy to talk to and stuff. I don't know, we'll see. </p> </p></div> crazy ex's are the worst. you ever have one who STALKED you? my friend has, she followed him all around in her car. this girl is psycho... </p> yeah, i figure if i don't say anything i'll completely regret. maybe the next time i talk to her, if i get enough balls, i'll say something.</p> but imma try flirting with her more, see how she reacts. i'll see how she acts when she's with me...i notice most of the time, she tends to start fiddling around with things. and (at times) when i try to get close to her, she pushes me away, jokingly of course. other times, she'll let me get close. i always found this a little strange. </p> the last time me and her hung out alone, we watched a movie, and she sat pretty close to me. like almost right up next to me, and there was plenty of room. i ended up puttin my head in her lap by the end of the movie. not sure if that means anything, but it might, considering she's a strange girl...she normally doesn't like being close to people and there are days she doesn't like being touched (crazy, i know, hahaha). so that might mean something that she'd be comfortable with me gettin close to her, with just me and her alone. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Max)</div><div class='quotemain'> Me and 2 of my ex's are cool but 1 completely hates me. This is why.</p> I went out with her because to be fair i really liked her best friend and i kind of settled with her when i realised she was outta my league. So anyway I'm the girl i really want Party. I'm Blind drunk and so is my Girlfriend. So i go for a piss as you do and the girl i really fancy is waiting at the door. Me and her both out of it we get off/Make out/ Snog, Whatever you call it. I wake up in the morning with THE biggest hangover ever on the floor. I take what i though was my can of Stella and take a swig but what i didn't realise was it was full of Ciggerette ash. I find my Girlfriend on the sofa with some random guy and even though she might not of done anything with him i saw it as an excuse and Ended it there. Now i'm with her best friend and she hates me for it.</p> Oh Well </p></div> </p> cigarette ash???? nasty...</p> This may sound strange, but I've heard people talk about how "drunk cheating" isn't that bad, and should be forgiven if it's done just once.. anyone else ever heard of this idea?</p>
I hung out with my girl best friend tonight, with a couple other friends...and damn, i noticed i always feel great around her.........</p> I GOT to hang out wit her alone some time soon. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (lukewarmplay)</div><div class='quotemain'>You need to ask a female about this friend zone thing they've got.</div> </p> hm...maybe i will. never really understood how the "friend zone" works, but all i know is it sucks, and means they would never go out with you. not too sure about anything else having to do with it.
