<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (o.iatlhawksfan)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> I'm still haven't lost it and I'm about to be 17 </p> is that pathetic???</p> </div></p> </p> No way, not at all. A few people I know lost it 16-18, and I'm 19 and still a virgin.</p> Don't rush it, you don't wanna sleep with the wrong girl (like I almost did) and regret it for the rest of your life. Nothing wrong with waiting.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'>Is is just me, or do you guys notice girls checking you out alot more whenyou'rewithyourgirlfriendoragirl-friend?Iwasinthecitytodaywithoneofmygirl-friends to meet up and have lunch,andaswewereleaving,Icaughtthisblondechicksittingdowncheckingmehardcore.ThisissomthingI'venoticedbefore too.Envymuch?Haha.</div></p> </p> Yeah, I've noticed it a few times too. It must be a girl thing.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (GMJigga)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Not at all. There's huge pressure placed by your peers to 'lose it,' but once you think about it, this pressure seems pretty silly; as if the people at your school have any say in your personal decisions. Personally I think its all based on the taboo nature of sex. When this knowledge of procreation is bestowed on us, we use it as a measuring stick to which we judge maturity (in many ways, 'manhood' is gained by losing your virginity), since we not only know this 'adult knowledge' but have participated in it as well (thus making ourselves adults).</p> From the people I have talked to, from all walks of life, and my own perceptions and studies, I would recommend that you wait until you meet someone special. Just because we understand the social implications of the act doesn't mean we should trivialize it. When you're older do you really want this huge event...to be while you were blacked out with some chick you haven't spoken with in 5 years, just so you can get a couple of high fives in the lockerroom at the time? For such an event that gets so much external-social attention (from other people), noone else really gives a sh*t about you losing it afterwards.</p> </div></p> Exactly. Sometimes people can be so immature about these sort of things...Like, when I go to tell someone close to my age that I'm 19 and still a virgin, I swear it's like I'm the biggest fuckin weirdo on Earth. I don't care, I'll tell everyone I'm still a virgin...it doesn't bother me one bit.</p> People revolve more around sex than anything else, and more times than none, if you pick the wrong girl (such as a huge slut, or a weirdo, or an extremely beat lookin girl) people will most likely talk about how dumb it was that you slept with the girl.</p> Just wait for the right girl, wait for the right moment...wait for your first love, or whoever you feel is "the one". And don't let anyone or anything make you think that you gotta lose it as soon as you've hit puberty. I find people who think that way immature and pathetic, and a bit annoying as well.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'> Don't rush it, you don't wanna sleep with the wrong girl (like I almost did) and regret it for the rest of your life. Nothing wrong with waiting.</p></div> Dude, thats just a cop out virgins use because they havent got laid yet, I used the same excuse myself. The fact is, you're just not ready yet, not confident enough or whatever. Sex is not some sacred treasure you have to strive towards, there is no "finding the right girl",youfuckagirlandthatsthat.Onceyouloseyourvirginity,you'llfindoutjusthowoveratedsexactuallyis.Itakemuchmoreprideinsatisfyingagirl,hearinghermoaninginecstasy,beggingyouformore,feelinghowwetsheis,thatjustmakesyoufeelinvincible,lol. </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Don't rush it, you don't wanna sleep with the wrong girl (like I almost did) and regret it for the rest of your life. Nothing wrong with waiting.</p> </div></p> Dude, thats just a cop out virgins use because they havent got laid yet, I used the same excuse myself. The fact is, you're just not ready yet, not confident enough or whatever. Sex is not some sacred treasure you have to strive towards, there is no "finding the right girl",youfuckagirlandthatsthat.Onceyouloseyourvirginity,you'llfindoutjusthowoveratedsexactuallyis. Itakemuchmoreprideinsatisfyingagirl,hearinghermoaninginecstasy,beggingyouformore,feelinghowwetsheis,thatjustmakesyoufeelinvincible,lol.</p> </div></p> Different people value things differently. Sleeping with a girl doesn't have to just be a notch on your belt; a means of judging your self worth, or a way that others determine your social value either.</p> </p>
I'm not saying it has to be any of that either, but after your first time, after time goes on, you realize that girls will come and go, waiting for the "right girl" to come along for your first time becomes completley irrelevant, whos to say the "right girl" isnt your second?orthird?"Connecting"andallthatotherkindofcrapwhenitcomestosexisforhusbandsandwives,real couples in love with each other, nota17yearoldkidwithnosexualexperienceunderhisbelt.</p> Byallmeans,I'mnotsayingjustgooutandsleepwithanyrandomchickforthesakeoflosing your virginity, but say you're at a party, hooking up with some girl you're attracted to, then go for it.To sum up, looking for "the right girl" to have sex with means nothing in the scheme of things.</p>
True, I feel the same way. But looking back on things, I'm glad I lost it to my first significant girlfriend, even though it wasn't til I was a frosh in college. Sure since then girls have come and gone, but I value the circumstances of the first time. So sure go out and get it done, but don't feel a rush to go out and do it. There's plenty of time to 'catch up.'</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Don't rush it, you don't wanna sleep with the wrong girl (like I almost did) and regret it for the rest of your life. Nothing wrong with waiting.</p> </div></p> Dude, thats just a cop out virgins use because they havent got laid yet, I used the same excuse myself. The fact is, you're just not ready yet, not confident enough or whatever. Sex is not some sacred treasure you have to strive towards, there is no "finding the right girl",youfuckagirlandthatsthat.Onceyouloseyourvirginity,you'llfindoutjusthowoveratedsexactuallyis. Itakemuchmoreprideinsatisfyingagirl,hearinghermoaninginecstasy,beggingyouformore,feelinghowwetsheis,thatjustmakesyoufeelinvincible,lol.</p> </div></p> </p> Ha, right. Think what you wanna think...I almost slept with the girl on my birthday, but it didn't feel right, so I never went for it.</p> Turns out she's a cheater and she's a whore, and I'm not sure but I have reason to believe she cheated on me. So for me, she would've been the wrong girl, and I'm glad I didn't sleep with her.</p> I guess I just think of sex differently from you. We're different people, don't act like you know everything about me.</p>
Dude, I'm not having a go at you,soIdontunderstandwhyyou'regettingalldefensive.Ifyoureadtheunderlyingmessageofmypost,you'dseethatI'msayingthathavingsexisntthatbigadeal.Waitingfortherightgirlandwhatnotbecomesirrelevant. </p> </p>
Man, I have to admit, what happened on Friday night is really starting to play on my mind, I'm not really sure where my friend stands on the whole thing now, I did talk to her on Sunday about it briefly, and she mentioned about finding the right time to talk to her boyfriend about breaking up or whatever she decides, buts not even that, its more so the fact that she has a boyfriend, and I was the guy she cheated on him with. I mean I've done it before in the past with another friend of mine, but her boyfriend knew about that, and it was all cool (long story short, they had an 'open relationship'), but this, I'm not so sure about. I have the ultimate guilty conscience, so its hammering away in my head a bit, the fact this guy doesnt know. But at the same time, I feel so badass and like such a player, lol. Really confused right now, I mean I still would really like to pursue somthing with her, but I dunno what I should do, I dont want to pressure her, but at the same time, I dont want to just sit back and do / say nothing, as I've done in the past.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (peg182)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (GMJigga)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Max you're 16!? I always thought you were over 30!</p> </div></p> </p> His love for Family Guy is a love that can only be shown by a teenager...</p> </div></p> lol yeah family guy is the Best ever,</p> Enough Said</p> </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'>Is is just me, or do you guys notice girls checking you out alot more whenyou'rewithyourgirlfriendoragirl-friend?Iwasinthecitytodaywithoneofmygirl-friends to meet up and have lunch,andaswewereleaving,Icaughtthisblondechicksittingdowncheckingmehardcore.ThisissomthingI'venoticedbefore too.Envymuch?Haha.</div></p> </p> YEP Love it!!!</p> </p> Then they approach me with kinda a disgusted look in their face, saying "so is that your girlfriend"? whats funny it's usually the girl who shows me little interest.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (o.iatlhawksfan)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Wait you guys got me confused..so i should go and get laid, or wait for the right moment?</p> </div></p> Take the warm-ups off and get laid buddy.</p> NTC if the girl you hooked up with was 'on a break' then you shouldn't feel guilty about it. I wouldn't press her on the subject anymore, just wait for her to come around.</p> </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'>You do what you want to do. I'm only offering my opinion.</div></p> Exactly. It's all on you buddy</p> </p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> Dude, I'm not having a go at you,soIdontunderstandwhyyou'regettingalldefensive.Ifyoureadtheunderlyingmessageofmypost,you'dseethatI'msayingthathavingsexisntthatbigadeal.Waitingfortherightgirlandwhatnotbecomesirrelevant.</p> </div></p> </p> Yeah, oh well. Sorry for getting defensive, I've been stressed out lately (I'm actually surprised I'm not in a pissy move right now).</p> But really, I guess I pretty much see sex differently than you (and most people, in general). I shoulda realized that most guys definitely wouldn't share my view, instead of getting all "you don't know me!" on you. Sorry, man.</p>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (GMJigga)</div><div class='quotemain'></p> <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (NTC)</div><div class='quotemain'>You do what you want to do. I'm only offering my opinion.</div></p> Exactly. It's all on you buddy</p> </p> </div></p> </p> Yup...we're just offering our opinions on the subject. Like NTC said, do what you want to do, and what you feel is right. If you feel like you wanna lose it soon, go for. If you wanna wait, then wait. It's all up to you.</p>
