Confused About A Decision I Made

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  1. Mr. J

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    Here's the situation: I've been friends with this girl for about a year now. I chilled with her a few times and nothing has ever happened. In fact, the last couple times I was with her, we were supposed to study and all she did was talk about other guys she liked. She told me she let them hit but they didn’t want to be in a relationship with her.

    So, last Friday I went to a party with her. After the party she was drunk and started telling me how much she liked me and that we should be together. Then, in her car, she puts her hand down my pants and I start feeling her titties… but nothing happened.

    But yesterday she started throwing some pretty obvious signals at me (licking her finger, telling me to look at her butt) and I just ignored them. Then she just gave up and straight up told me “I wanna f*ck you!” I told her since I don’t want to be in a relationship with her, I would be just like the other guys she was having problems with. She was kinda upset that I didn’t hit.

    Now I’m here debating whether I did the right thing? Should I just have listened to my manly instincts and hit or preserve a friendship? I'm sorta confused, I never did anything like that before.
     
  2. CelticKing

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    Should have done her.

    Call her back dude, say you were sorry and that you want her back. ;)
     
  3. DynastYWarrioR6

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    Everyone else here will come in and say that you should've banged her, but preserving your friendship was better. If you guys really want to pursue a relationship try the dating route before you go there, you gotta know its not just for the sex, you need something substantial, you know the feelings and the work thats in a relationship, and all that needs to be proved to you before going in there.

    But you do gotta talk to her to clear that up.
     
  4. Shapecity

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    Is she hot?
     
  5. CelticKing

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    I was going to ask the same thing first. :lol:
     
  6. DynastYWarrioR6

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    Look at these jerks...thinking with the wrong head :D
     
  7. Mr. J

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    She's cute.

    Makes me feel worse.
     
  8. Chutney

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    Your initial instinct kinda reveals what kinda person you are. I think you went with the decision that makes sense for you.

    Also, pics or it didn't happen.
     
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    That'd be the ultimate bitch move, I vote nay.

    If you still want to hit it, wait for another drunk opportunity. Then you can get your nut and still fall back on your friend stance the next day (which is honorable), by using alcohol as a reason for the one time fling.
     
  10. Shapecity

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    Do you get laid on a regular basis?
     
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    Should have done it.
     
  12. CelticKing

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    Lol, she might be doing it with someone else while he's asking for advice here. Don't let the opportunity escape I say. :ghoti:
     
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    You did the right thing. Getting your dick wet isn't always worth the consequences.
     
  14. Shapecity

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    This would have been my advice if

    A. she's hot or cute
    B. you aren't getting it on a regular basis

    Getting a BJ isn't a crime.
     
  15. Chutney

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    He's posting this question on a message board, so I think its safe to say he's not getting it on a regular basis.
     
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    Great point.
     
  17. Mr. J

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    Put it like this: I know many girls who will give it up for me.
     
  18. CelticKing

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    Plus he's a Knicks fan, so that's a plus.

    ;)
     
  19. Mr. J

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    lol, this is a question of a moral dilemma.
     
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    In my mind, you made the right decision, don't beat yourself up over it.
     

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