So even though his mother and I get along very well and are very civil, you still think I should get a lawyer? I am 99% positive she will stay with this guy, because she doesn't think he did anything. She is blaming the day care center at her work. (Her story has changed so much with the police and DA that I am sure they know she is a liar.) I do not think they will come after me with their lawyers. The incident happened when I was 60 miles away. Everyone knows that. There is no way that I could be a suspect. I took pictures of the bruises that I noticed on 08.28.09 and notified Police. The 'major' head injury happened on 09.03.09 - while he was with his mother and her boyfriend. I just don't see how, no matter how good the lawyer is, they could even hint that I am responsible at all. I just do not see that happening.
Cover your ass. Get a lawyer regardless of whether or not you think they'll do anything or you think anything will happen. Don't assume anything, even from the mother of your child.
Sorry to hear about your son. I don't know how anyone can justify hitting a 20 month old. So hard it makes him bleed. I know this much, as soon as he comes out of this. I would be looking for justice. No question about it. Other than that. I hope all is well for your son. I wish him the best in the healing process.
Thank you sir. And Julius, I will take your advice. I am trying to see what I can do to get legal representation.
Honestly, I think you need to cover your bases. At least, there are lawyers out there who don't charge for an initial consultation. You can get an objective view on where you stand, and the ex doesn't need to know. Frankly, my concern isn't that they will try to blame you. I am more concerned on what will happen if the police investigation fizzles out. If your ex did this, and I know you don't want to believe that, she needs to take responsibility and get help. If the boyfriend is at fault, she needs to not protect him. Otherwise, the day may come that she wants custody back, or at least unsupervised visitation. At that point, your son is back at risk. Sorry if I sound alarmist. It is just that people who abuse kids and get away with it have a strong tendency to do it again. Besides, why should you be bankrupted by the medical bills, when your ex has a legal (and moral) obligation to contribute!
Great advice. Thank you very much. Now they are telling us we have to stay for 2 more days. I am getting really frustrated
Just hang in there. Stay as long as they want you there. They aren't fucking with you, they are looking out for your boy. Just hang in there man.
My son is very frustrated too. He has been in a crib with wires attached to his body for 4 days now. He is suffering in this crib. He is visibly stressed out and exhausted. At what point is making him sit in this bed for just monitoring (they aren't doing anymore tests, he does not even have an IV, cancelled his last cat scan) so they are just monitoring him. I can fucking do that at home. I called 911 when something happened. I am capable of taking care of him. I am so fucking frustrated.
What is something goes critically wrong? Another seizure? You're already at the hospital man. Patience man. I don't know what it is like going what you're going through right now, but I do know that he is there for a reason.
I don't think they would let you take him anyway, if you did they would probably jail you. No need for that. I hated being in the hospital recently, but those bastards know what they are doing. Some of the things they do are almost beyond comprehension to us normal folks but it is for the best.
Nope. You are wrong. I already talked to the officer investigating this case. He said I cannot get in any sort of legal trouble for this, if I take him home. He is fine now. They took off all the monitoring wires. He is sitting in the crib with street clothes on.
I am not going anywhere. I just lost my temper for a minute. Thanks for supporting me guys. I am not going to leave. This is just so fucking hard... I feel like crying.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son Like the others, I agree, do not assume anything and would hire some form of legal consulting for your child's sake and to help out with the bills,and if joint custody is ever an option again. Just my 2 cents...hope everything ends up well
I hear ya man, but remember this: your son is too young to tell the Drs how he feels, or what his symptoms are. That puts the medical people at a disadvantage (as opposed to an adult patient). They are just trying to be really careful.
Man, what kind of a person hits a small child like that? I hope things get better, very sorry to hear about that.
Have you asked the doctors? IF they thought your son was at risk they could call child protective services even if you don't go to jail for anything. I wouldn't risk that. I am glad he is fine now though.
Hang in there man. The doctors know best. You are lucky they are keeping him for what may seem "longer than needed." And bro, cry if you feel like it. Let it out. My son was in the NICU for 6 weeks and it was the most agonizing thing I've ever dealt with. I balled like a baby out of pure frustration. Don't bottle that shit up or you'll go off the deep end eventually. It's healthy to purge that shit as it builds up. Your mind will be clearer for it.
