There's an old Chinese proverb, "Wait long enough by the river and your enemy's body will float by." maxiep's advice is good, not only because it's the best strategy but also the best solution for your own sanity. If you start down the path of back stabbing, forever will it dominate your destiny. [/yoda] You may be different, but I find it very difficult to contain my assholishness. If I become a petty asshole to one person, it starts creeping into other relationships, work and personal. Not much good comes from it. If this boss doesn't get fired, it's time to start looking for a new job. It's a bad sign for any organization when assholes are allowed to metastasize.
There's an old Chicago proverb that states, "Why wait, just shoot the dope and kick the body into the river."
lol. And that's why Chinese dynasties are measured in centuries while Al Capone gets busted for tax evasion in under a decade.
1. Loan them a shit load of money. 2. Use it to float your own economy with cheap currency. 3. Watch the debtor spend itself into a death spiral 4. ? 5. Profit!
(Seriously, people always talk about what sorry shape America is in for racking up all this debt. Isn't there a little part of every American saying to himself, "Those Chinese are so goddamned fucked when they finally realize how underwater we are." ?)
HI Anima, I started my current job just under 4 years ago. Before that I worked for about 5 years, in different places, that absolutely crossed the line into abusive. I went to work every day knowing I would be screamed at, threatened, insulted, ridiculed, called ugly names, lied to, lied about, assigned ridiculous punishments (but not for wrongdoing), accused of things I did not do, even subject to deliberate attempts to cause physical pain and illness. At least you have a decent boss, I had no one. First, ucatchtrout's suggestion to document everything is good, but people like that are really good at staying JUST this side of the law. They WILL NOT change. Nothing you can do will change them. Talking won't change them. Confronting them won't change them. Reporting them won't change them. They are bullies, they have been rewarded for being bullies, and some companies, unfortunately, want to hire bullies. They think that if workers are relaxed and happy they won't produce, although if you look at really successful companies you usually see workers who feel good (think Google). I know it's a wretched economic climate, but ask yourself, is this how you want to live your life? You spend at least 8 hours a day miserable. I don't know how miserable you are, is it affecting you outside life? Are you depressed every Sunday evening knowing another week is coming? Sleep trouble? You don't have to publicly answer this, just think about it. If this is really impacting your life, honestly, Amina, get your resume together, take an interview course, and start looking elsewhere. Being miserable at work can make your whole life miserable. I was laid off from a very abusive workplace with no prospects. In the following week my dearly loved cat Celia died at 18 and I had a dental emergency. And I was still less stressed and less depressed (according to those who knew me) than I had been while working there. Above all things, DON'T BLAME YOURSELF! People like that will try to say YOU are the problem. You are not the problem, SHE is. Best to you from one who's been there, done that, has the scars.
I don't see the problem really. If you can't work professionally with people just because they're rude and insecure you probably should start your own business. Jerks like her are everywhere and if you let them they will ruin your day. If she's incompetent or counter-productive she'll get the ax. Be professional and polite, and wait for Karma to prevail. If that doesn't work ask yourself "What would Al Bundy do?".
Update: I am pretty sure my boss said something to her on Friday, and she's been much better then last couple of days. We'll see how long it lasts though.
I've got this weirdo kid in one of my classes this summer who's got some sort of disability. Unfortunately, it leads to him doing a bunch of really distracting stuff, like laying down in the middle of the classroom. He left at the break this afternoon, but I talked to his disability service coordinator and found out that it's A-OK for me to tell him such behavior is not acceptable. Which is great, but Thursday I actually get to have this conversation. It's gonna be... not fun.
