Exactly. I mean the guys a nice guy and all and I get along with him well. But, he wants me to be his best friend, buddy buddy and that involves hanging with him all the time. I've never had a dude come on so strong with the whole friends thing. I don't want friction, I just want to be casual friends. Not 'besties'. The dude's a big ass black dude, ex military who is always packing heat (CWP of course) and is paranoid of Portland Police.
I think if you end it with something like, "I still want to hangout", it could go well. Or do you not want to hang out at all?
he's not going to hear that. all he's going to hear is: "I'm really put off by you calling me all the time. can you tone it down a tad? Loser."
shit, i didnt know he was shaft, bring him to the bar with you and tell chicks he is your bodygaurd. proceed to reap vagina.
the guy sounds needy and dependent. those types tend to hear what they want to hear. if Mick Zagger is blunt about it, the guy will react negatively. he's better off just remaining distant and aloof, while maybe throwing him a bone every once in the blue moon to establish his position as alpha male of his workplace.
I would do a pass off. Find some other poor shlub to pawn him off on. Expose the dude to the airsoft community... they love those ex-military types and there's plenty of losers for him to hang out with all the time.
Go out drinking with him and make sure he gets into enough trouble that his wife will hate you for it.
Probably the best route. I mean I like the guy and all, enjoy hanging with him sometimes. But, I'm not really taking best friend applications at the moment. I'm not the first one at work that he's wanted to be besties with.
Talking about friendship with another guy is just wrong. Zags, just blow him a few times. I mean blow him off. You care too much about this. Either that, or start hinting about your "Tarzan" collection of photos.
Just tell him you'd like to be "besties" with him, and then pinkie swear it. This is the Portcouver edition of Rob and Big. Let's call it Zags and Big, put it on community access, and let the hilarity ensue!
