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  1. deception

    deception JBB Banned Member

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    so i have this dilemma- i have a job where i work for myself in a sales capacity. i make my own hrs, do what i want. as a result, my quality of life is great, in fact, its the happiest ive ever been in relation with work. however, im earning very little right now, and its putting stresses on my personal life, i.e. disappointing my girlfriends family.

    recently, ive been approached by a company to work in a salaried position where i would be earning decent money. ive heard the job entails long hours and ive been unhappy in similar roles before. although, my personal situation is dramatically different this time around as I'm in a very serious relationship now.

    clearly there is a professional versus happiness tradeoff. what would you do?
     
  2. EL PRESIDENTE

    EL PRESIDENTE Username Retired in Honor of Lanny.

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    its your life, live it how you want to. don't do something to please other people if it will make you personally miserable.

    unless the salaried position is a shitload of money or a stepping stone to much larger things.... don't bother.
     
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    ABM Happily Married In Music City, USA!

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    Get a new girlfriend. Preferably, a sugar-mamma.
     
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    BLAZER PROPHET Well-Known Member

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    As an old man who's been thru this type of stuff before, I say be happy with what you do unless you have no other choice.
     
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    ABM Happily Married In Music City, USA!

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    What he said.
     
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    Serious relationships come and go. Do whatever you want that is in your best interests.
     
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    Are you living at your girlfriend's parents' house?
     
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    deception JBB Banned Member

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    no. on a separate note in regards to the relationship, she and i plan on getting married in the near future. she's in school so there is no income coming from her end so i have to think about both of us when i make my decisions.
     
  10. EL PRESIDENTE

    EL PRESIDENTE Username Retired in Honor of Lanny.

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    HOW OLD ARE YOU, SON?
     
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    deception JBB Banned Member

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  12. EL PRESIDENTE

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    ok. if you were younger, I would have said to work your ass off. but you're a bit older, so you should be good and enjoy life.
     

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