The girl you quoted is actually a really good friend and isn't even close to pretentious. In fact, you should see her last boy friend. He doesn't have a job and is very homely looking.
I mean it made me laugh in that when I was 23, I'd be wasting my time on the 2 on the right. Old me in young me's body would go the easy route and only put in 30 minutes or so of work on the chubby one to seal the deal instead of all night to hope it pans out on the 'hot' ones. I get what Zags was saying, but experience, and what I know now, would make me go the path less traveled. The one next to Mag's girl would have been a slam dunk sure thing when I was 23, and knowing that, I'd probably enjoy the party, not have to waste my night paying attention to the other two, and still end up getting some.
Haha. I hear ya, trust me, I hear ya. I was a bit opposite, I guess, at least after a while. I'm a tall dude (about 6'5"), so it's always created an insecurity for me. I would have been the dude to go after the chick second on the left.... sure thing. Then, I'd find out other girls (like the girls on the right) were interested, and I blew it by chasing the sure thing. Went on a trip to the East Coast for work when I was 20, and it slapped some sense into me. Ain't no tall dudes back there, for the most part.... so I was THE man. Had a GREAT time. Opened shit up for me, big time. I came home after my two week venture, and the confidence, in and of itself, changed my life. I'm not a player, I'm not a slimeball.... I love women.... But I'm loyal, honest, and just simply, I love women. I've dated models, stippers, professional ballerinas (so nice on so many levels), average women, pageant gals, stunning women (that otherwise have average lives).... whatever... it comes down to confidence. Being tall (and big enough to defend yourself) and confident.... doesn't hurt your chances... no matter how out of your league a girl may seem, at least from my experience. And chasing the easy ones has only seemed to hurt my chances with the hotter ones (like the ones on the right). I'm not some stunning dude as it is. For me, height and confidence has worked (the fact I'm young a make decent living doesn't hurt), despite the fact I'm otherwise just an average dude. So.... at 20, I'd have made a play for the one you would have. After that, I'd have chased the other two. Maybe I don't score that night.... But I'd rather have fun several times over than one night.
I never lacked for confidence at 20-23, and I've been told I'm not hard on the eyes. Plus, I was an athlete, and would kill for my physique I had even at age 28. I'm near 40 now and have been married for 12 years, though, so I've got what, 10 years on you in experience? Believe me, in ten years, and after 12 years of marriage, 23 year-old you with a 39 year-old mind would go for the Chubs. You have a blast at the party, and go for the sure thing with minimal effort.
LA chicks ARE trouble. I have some connected friends in LA so when I visit I can get into the higher end clubs, even though I'm just some broke ass college student. The gold diggers in that city are absolutely disgusting. There are some of the most beautiful girls in the world in that city, but if you are just an out-of-work actor or a guy making a couple k a month, you are in for a rude awakening. It's all about who you know, how much you make, and what you drive. Actually, a really good movie is Swingers with Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau. Really gives a great look into what it's like down there. I ain't sayin she's a gold digger... but she ain't messin with no broke... guys.
totally false and cliche. If you're just going to the biggest exclusive club or party, I guess yeah, the model looking girls will gravitate to the power players. But in general, LA is very diverse and more laid back than you think. alot of hollywood is douchey though, but that's a small part of LA. To me, the small town princess mentality is much worse. The thing is, in other places they watch shit like the kardashian reality show and think that's how things are so people act like that. I guess what I'm saying is you have to know how the system works.
This is 100% true statement. If you are rolling in the big name clubs trying to get tail; then Nate is right. I've met some of the coolest peeps on the planet in L.A. and the cities around it. Go to "dive bars" or "valley clubs" if you want to find cool peeps. If you think going to West Hollywood, Westwood or Hollywood to find chics; you will have a hard time. P.S. The Woman to men ratio is pretty good too.
Elope, have after party. Saves money for when the inevitible divorce you're going to have in 6 years occurs....ironically partly due to you eloping and not having a wedding.
what kills me is that chicks spend all this fucking money (or in this case, you) to have a "special wedding" but seriously, every wedding I've gone to has basically been the same fucking shit. same scripted lame dances and intros of the wedding party (what the fuck is that shit), the speeches are dumb. the slow dances that all of a sudden turn into baby got back or what the fuck. Either go cheap/elope/whatever or have unlimited booze and force feed it down everyone's throats and people who like to party there. best weddings i've been to have been this kind of vibe. even the cheap ones have been more special than renting a banquet room at the marriott or whatever. just seem totally lame. only reason people go is to get hammered and try to hook up with slutty bridesmaids.
but just live life, man. :MARIS61: Just do a destination wedding, have people pay their own shit and go get married on a beach somewhere with close fam. everyone else is a freeloader looking for free shit!
I paid my daughter to elope and then we had a nice reception when they got back. Saved me money and a wasted afternoon.
It'd be cool if you can take staged wedding photos after the fact like they do with engagement shots. like hire a fake priest, crowd, etc. would be pretty funny.
