Still seems like plenty of time to discuss the plans. Maybe ABM's style of communication needed to be tweaked?
It's more of a case that I made an assumption that she would be working the normal time and then related plans to her that my family had recently set up for that afternoon and early evening...and that I wanted to go. (I told her that I would be able to drive up there following that.) As it turns out, she will be getting off early and she had in her mind that I would be able to spend the entire time (afternoon and evening) with her. This will be the first Christmas in years that her boys won't be here. I think that was already weighing on her. THEN, when I sprung the "hey, this is what I'm planning on doing...whataya think?" kind of thing, well, it affected her even more.....as in she sensed that she was an afterthought in the entire matter. (From my perspective, it was simply a misunderstanding as I though she was going to be working, as I had already related. Fellas, there's no sense in fighting that one, though, right? ) Anyway, the flowers will show up today. I have already mitigated the family thing in that I'll be getting together with them a bit earlier on Christmas Eve early afternoon, then scoot up north so that we can still have that late afternoon together.
If you are marvelous in bed; then you can make up for anything. If you are weak sauce, then your relationship is good as dead!
Relationship Rule #1: Don't make assumptions. Talk FIRST, then plan. It will save a lot of stress, and problems down the road. Its' OK for the man to make all the plans, etc. But, just ask her first what she wants to do and when she wants to do it, and then you do the rest. She'll get what she wants, and ultimately, you'll get what you want. She will appreciate your consideration, and also the effort you put into planning things to accommodate her needs. And, if you screw up (in her eyes), apologize and send flowers. BNM
Yeah if you are whipped. But real men will acknowledge they are wrong; not say they are wrong just because the woman thinks he is. I used to be like that and got taken advantage of. Now I treat my girl with the same level of respect as I would a friend and we have an equal relationship. Works much better.
If they're all consenting adults... I don't judge. Although they do seem to be pretty happy guys, just sayin'.
P.S. The rest of you sound bitter and frustrated. And from the looks of it you're all typing one handed.
