My daughter is 17. She came out to me a little over two years ago a month after her 15th birthday. I was the first person she came out to. I was honored that she trusted me and felt close enough to me to come out. She didn't tell her mother, my ex-wife, for another four months. She was worried her mom wouldn't accept her due to her mom's religious beliefs. Of course, her mom accepted her and supports her and is questioning the religious beliefs she blindly accepted without question for nearly 50 years. Her mom and her are now very close, and I'm glad. She may be my ex-wife, but we're still both parents to our children and partners in raising them. BNM
LMAO the similarities are crazy. My daughter told me first, but she actually thought I would take it harder because of my religious beliefs. She told her mom (my ex) and her mom freaked out. I was more understanding and from that point, we've been even more close. I too feel honored my daughter can tell me anything. I love her so much!
good for you for being a good dad reguardless of her sexuality. How old is she and is she sure she is gay or just experimenting? At least she can't get knocked up amirght?
That was funny because I actually said that to her. I said "At least you can't get pregnant!" We laughed. I don't really know if she is experimenting. She still talks about guys she thinks are really cute; but I can tell her true attraction is woman.
Giving her a little space, ie door closed, isn't a bad idea either. I'm not talking about sex, but she may want to have conversations that are very deep with her friends or girlfriends, and giving her that space can help her grow into a well rounded adult. Make sure you are available to her, but be understanding that she may not want to share everything with you. Just knowing that you would be there if she chose to share will mean the world.
That is awesome, Mags! I want my girls to have that security in their beliefs with me as they start to hit their teens and adulthood, too!
I'll admit it: if my (theoretical yet-to-be-conceived) daughter told me she was gay, I'd feel secretly a little relieved... totally selfishly, of course!
When I was young, about 11, my sister 13 and brother 16 my parents at a family meal stopped everything to address the family and say that they just wanted us to be happy and did not care if any of us were gay. None of us were, but my parents suspected that my sister was, and they wanted her to know she was accepted in our family. Even though I was not gay, this meant a lot to me. I think more parents should do this.
Well, GOD, if you were gay.... Lets just say there would be a lot of confused people in this world, particularly those heavily religious.
Totally true. It was funny because I was preparing to tell my daughter if she plans on having sex to tell me so I can get her on birth control. I just want my children to have the opportunity like everyone else to go to school and party without worrying about their child. When the time comes when they think they are ready for a child; then they can stop the birth control. My daughter had a talk with me and said the only thing she would regret is not being able to having a child. I told her that isn't impossible. There is always artificial assimilation too. She asked if having a child with a woman partner bad? I said anyone that tells you so is. I try and instill that we as individuals know what's right for us. Of course without breaking the law and such. If she is still gay (maybe just experimenting); she has every right to still have a child.
This is why it's a puzzle why lesbians are the leaders about abortion, rape, etc. They're the least likely to get involved.
