Oh. I guess because maybe I'm really good at it but like most things if you don't use it you'll lose it.
This, and nothing else you've said, has been simple. Is this join AN institution or join AND institution? If the former, it's simple: TO GET MARRIED. Marriage is a legal definition in today's America (one that you seem hesitant to join.) This is wrong. Marriage ultimately comes from the Latin word for marriage, which is matrimonium, which stems from a combination of matrem (mother) and -monium (state/condition). Oh, and "now without the young women" makes it seem like you don't know that lesbians exist. Or maybe you only have a problem with gay men. Hmm. Words... brain.... aghhghg. "This whole pressure"? What? I can't -- I don't. I can't. What?
Marry, from mari, from here on only applies lesbians. Why should men ever use it. You man and woman couples usurped the word from its rightful lesbian owners.
yeah yaoi isn't so much about the actual meat of the matter (for a lack of a better term), it's more about the waifish men having intense feelings about each other while shirtless
That's more shounen ai... There plenty of meat in yaoi. I went to college with a couple of fruit flies who wrote slashfic... one had me proofread her James Hetfield/Lars Ulrich fanfic... trust me, some girls do get off on two guys 69'ing.
I can be gay any time I choose. I don't let others define terms for me or scare me off of using words. It's banned here, but I often use n-i-g-g-a-r-d-l-y, who cares what other people think.
Nothing specifically is wrong with that word used in the right context, but with synonyms available and the knowledge that the word is very similar sounding to a word that does greatly offend people, why use it. So you can feel special that you are coming close to saying something that would offend. Or is it that you are setting up a situation to act like a smart jackass where you get to explain in your holier-than-thou way that you actually said nothing wrong and it's not your fault that others are ignorant and uneducated. Whatever the reason, it seems a little douchebaggy to me.
It's not what they think so much as a failure to communicate. Look at an healthcare insurance form. Not long ago they ask your gender and if you are single or Married. Now Married does not communicate the required information, they ask your gender and your spouses' gender. Any combination of genders is accepted except Male Male. The online form won't let that happen. What is going to happen now? More government regulation on the Insurance industry requiring them to accept Male Male married couples to be covered by Health insurance even though they are in a high risk category? Some more forced acceptance of "preexisting conditions" to inflate the healthcare premiums. The people I feel for are the young that really do not need healthcare for some time yet in their lives. They have to pay inflated costs now as mandated by this act. These changes all focus rather narrowly on a segment of the population that actually buy a healthcare policy. 1. 43% of the US population get healthcare from self insured employers and they are not required to hire people with preexisting conditions and rightfully so. So they are not really affected. That is until the government mandates force them to stop providing healthcare. 2. Some 10- 15% of the population get healthcare via the Military and or VA. 3. 15 - 20% via Medicare and retirement healthcare policies. 4 10% never bothered to get healthcare or can't That leave a group of 20 to 25% that have been buying healthcare insurance to pay the price of all these mandates that so wonderfully improve our Nation, according to Obama. It's not really important at all that I can't use the word Gay and communicate a meaning any longer. These changes do have consequences though, that should perhaps be understood before you just feel good
So you feel that everyone should be fully updated often in what is currently politically correct, PC? Do you know that offends the crap out of me? umm yes I thought so, same deal, heh?
No, but I think when people are aware what insults others, they should make an attempt not to insult. I don't think it should be required. I don't think it should be law. But I do think as members of a community, it's generally nice to keep the rest of the community in mind. I was on my way to work today when a man ahead of me felt he was cut off by a minivan. when we arrived at the next light, the man extended his middle finger and let loose a colorful mix of curse words. The woman in the minivan, and her children didn't seem to know why they were being taunted. Should the man be permitted to flick the bird and curse, yes. Should the man flick the bird and curse, NO. So my point to maxiep was that it seemed he was going out of his way to use a word that he knew was perceived by under-educated people to be offensive (not actually insulting, but perception is there). Not that he can't use it. But why go out of your way to push other peoples buttons.