Arithmetic solves this question. A woman can count on being fertile up to her early 30s. So you need to meet her when she's 30. The man wants a maximum age difference, so he can tolerate her immaturity. Add your desired age difference to 30, and you have your own deadline. For me the desired age difference is 50. So I'll start looking when I hit the big 8-oh. I better start crackin'.
I find it funny when people who aren't married (or haven't been married) and have no kids think they know what it's like and make their quips. Hands down, I enjoy life more now than at 22. And I probably party now than I did at 22. Of course, I do far less dumb shit too.
I miss the weekends when it requires little planning to head to the coast and not worry about anything. Different sort of happy when teaching my kid how to read finally clicks.
You'll need two kids so 27 is probable optimal so you have to target 25 year olds in your late 30s/early 40s. If you're going to wifey up. . you need to balance out her being out of her dirty slut phrase and maximize the time before she hits "the wall" hoop fam
"Head to the coast"? Fuck that man. .. more like travel the world and bang 20 year old European girls. :tapout: hoop fam
Yes. Yes you are. If doing dumb shit = fun, then I rarely have fun anymore. But I still get to party and have fun (as I see it). I have fun with my kids too (and they're bright, responsible, well-adjusted, even at their young ages). I also have a lot of things I didn't have at 22 that perhaps help make things more fun.
Congrats to you if you never good bored with that and good luck that it can continue forever. When I was younger, I thought some of that stuff would last forever and I wanted it to then. Sadly, I got older and bored.
Yeah because at 22 you were probably making shit money. Imagine if you were making mad money now and were single... you'd be able to do whatever you want. 30s are 2 awesome to be single because you make more money and still young enough to do awesome stuff. hoop fam
Hey.. not saying do it forever but don't waste your 20s doing stuff like starting a family and getting married when you can do it later and have more money, stability, maturity and life experience hoop fam
I dunno. I wore out of a lot of things. Girls... Hard partying... I still travel a lot. I still party a lot. I have great kids and a great wife. Our house is 5600 square feet, and we have a second house at the coast. I'm still only 31. I dunno. I have the things I want in life, and I have things that I am grateful for and appreciate. I don't think I'd have these things if I were always traveling and partying - they'd all be a few years away (especially the things that cost money). I'd take what I have over the alternative. I can understand why some people enjoy being single in their 30's. Just not for me.
Travel and partying is a lot less of a waste of time and money versus a wife and kids. That shit is expensive and time consuming. With travel you can turn it on and off and focus on work. With a family.... not so much hoop fam
You're killing me Smalls. You're one of the brighter ones on the board. But it's odd hearing your take on this, when you've only experienced one side.
I'm not saying you shouldn't have kids or settle down. .. just don't see the need to do so in your 20s when you can do so much more. hoop fam
It seems the prevailing theme to settle down is "I'm bored". Kind of a lame excuse to do something like that. . As if you are submitting at life. hoop fam
Being a parent is tough as shit, but very rewarding. Not to get all cheesy, but seeing my 12 year old son hit a pull-up jumper the other night at his summer league game and having my 8 year old daughter read me a book on the porch last night makes me happier than you could ever imagine. Once you have kids, puts a whole new spin in everything. Sent from HCPs Baller-Ass iPhone 5...FAMS!
And why can't I do all that same stuff when I'm in my 40s, my kids are grown, I make more money, and I'm mature and experienced enough to actually appreciate it in a way I wouldn't have been able to in my 20s?
