Could be. Also could be a hard working goal accomplishing asshole. My only point is the car could say more than just that the person has money . . . in fact that car doesn't even mean the person is rich. But I would like to know the story behind the car . . . maybe this is a self realization moment that I am a gold digger. On a sidenote, I would have no problem with my s/o being a trust fund baby. I wouldn't date someone just for that reason, but it would be a nice little bonus if the person I fell in love with was.
If you go from not knowing anything about someone to knowing they have a successful career . .. to me that is something valid to change your mind and doesn't automatically make someone a gold digger. Having said that, I understand why that video comes across as gold digging. I found that guy to be the jerk, but understand the woman comes across as the jerk to most.
So... the issue is that she's shallow and only considering dating him because of what he might own. Ummmm, why do you think he approached her in the first place? He didn't know if she'd be interesting but he chose to walk up to her and ask her out without even a little bit of a previous connection. Why do you think that is? Maybe he likes some of the things she paid for too. Get back to me with a video of this average looking slimey dude approaching an average looking woman with all her original body parts. Sure this girl is shallow but he's just as bad. That high maintenance stuff these woman have to pay for to look perfect is very very expensive and a lot of work.
That's a very good point. Since this video is most likely staged, we can just imagine it as if the woman he approached was 35 years old and average looking. I don't think it changes the situation. Sent from my banana using Tapatalk 4
Yeah that vid looks totally fake. But none the less this is a topic I've talked with a lot of my girl friends about. Its frustrating as a man, but from a woman's perspective its just a part of what they find attractive in someone. I'm of the belief that its sort of gold digging but also a modern form of picking a mate. Women want to pick a successful man because he will provide for them and their kids. The money makes life a lot easier, but isn't that what any living being strives for? To make life easier? Beyond just the money and providing aspect women will read into it that the man has traits that make him successful. BTW ask women about the difference between a man who is independently wealthy vs. just born into wealth. Yeah any wealthy guy is a plus, but the guys who are independently wealthy really make dem panties soak. I just got a promotion last week and was discussing it with an ex of mine who explained to me how I just got hotter in the eyes of all the women in the office (and any other female who knows about it). I find myself more pissed off than happy about it in that regard. Last week I'm a completely unexceptional, not really desired dude and a week later women find me notably more attractive. It irks me that nothing about me has changed except my job title and salary yet I just got way hotter to women. Granted I do walk around with more of a big dick swangin' confidence knowing I fucking won the job over everyone else who applied, and that's gotta make me more attractive, but it still pisses me off that theoretically I wasn't good enough for some last week but now I am simply because I make more money and have a position of slightly higher status.
Sadly, that's very true. I have a friend who seems to be more interested in how much money her boyfriend makes than how he treats her. Now obviously, that's not exactly how it goes, but you get the jist. Me? I make far less than the guy she's dating, but unlike him, I actually enjoyed spending time with her, treated her nice and wanted to spent time with her. But...she wanted someone who had a job because it showed (in a weird, and imho, inaccurate way) that he was a "better man" than others. But they end up being replaced for some other twit anyways. Usually women in their mid 30's grow out of it (just as guys once they hit their mid 30's, tend to grow out of their own annoying habits about women)
Another note; in general girls are raised to be more cooperative- both in behavior and collaboratively working together on projects- and develop strong friendships with one friend at a time (and these best friends tend to rotate over the course of their childhoods/lives). Contrast that to boys who are raised to be more competitive but socially they tend to have a larger core group of friends but they're less intimate with each friend. My point is that women are sort of wired to look for that one relationship, and they're trained for much of their lives to have these best friend relationships where the two friends are very intimate and emotionally supportive of one another. When they're looking for someone to marry its a lot like looking for that best friend, but you also have to factor in that they're judging people based on how well they will provide and how good of a father they'll be. They're not necessarily just looking for a sugar daddy, I think they view the marriage as a team/partnership kind of thing where they'll be working cooperatively with this person for the rest of their lives. Its like a two-on-two bball tournament that but you only get to have one teammate the rest of your life- you want to get a LeBron if at all possible. Women are judged largely on the family they raise and the person they're with. They want a winner and they want to have better lives/mates/families than everyone else they know. Its a foreign concept to men who are taught to be independent and make something of themselves rather than relying on a partner for assistance. But all this said, most of the young girls I know act very much like young guys- they just wanna fuck the hottest guy around. Status plays a part, but they're pretty focused on good looks. As they get older their priorities change, but a lot of the girls I know just wanna get a nut off in their early 20's. Still frustrating to me but can I really knock them if they're not much different than men?
