I cannot share your sympathy, sorry...I honestly do not know anyone more outgoing that myself, and I am hella funny. I don't say that, other people tell me so. I can quite honestly talk to anyone.Here is some tips however...When in a conversation, and there is not much to talk about, ask the other person questions about themselves... "How was your day?" "What did you do?" ETC... If you do this you can keep even the most lame convo going till a spark starts, cause people like to talk about themselves ALOT, much more than others.Next...Don't be just another number, another person. What makes me personally such a unique, funny, and charismatic person is my signature mannerisms, sayings, and just style of speech...Like yesterday my friend who is new at my job finally found out how to process checks correctly, and I held him by his head, and said... "I call you son, cause you shine like one."Also not being so damn predictable can be fun, just try to have fun with life... Like yesterday at my job (Grocery Store) This Mom had just gotten Sushi buy one get 1 free, and I was talking to her while the sh!t processed about how much I love Sushi, ETC... Than her two kids started fighting over who would get to eat the sushi, and the Mom was obviously annoined... So I said... "Hey! Children, stop fighting over the Sushi, or soon Josh (Points to name tag) Will be eating the Sushi!"The Mom got a nice laugh, and it wasn't really funny what I said, it just was not expected.In anything you try to do, find people to emulate, but be your own, and make sure to use those examples of people you emulate TO NOT act like. People in general love other people who are unique and different. You do not have to be weird.Also do not analyze situations... I do this sometimes, all humans do, and when you do this it makes you shy, instead of thinking "What should I say" be like "What is so interesting about this person? Oh, they are wearing Jordans."... "SON!!! I like them Jay's!" Bam, now a convo is started, you can move to your shoes, or go anywhere, just don't limit yourself, try to have fun, and above all else, DONT OVERTHINK!Even the most funny, and charismatic people seem/feel lame sometimes, and some people I honestly flop around, it's all good, no one is perfect, just use what you got.I hope I helped without bragging too much.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (tmgbball15 @ Mar 14 2007, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>The first thing you have to do is to be yourself, and you have to understand that not everyone will like you and you can not be afraid of rejection.</div>5 stars, seriously... Once I learned this, my social life was so much better.In middle school I was not funny, or cool AT ALL... Although alot of circumstances that were out of my hands hurt me socially, once I learned this, I was so much better...Being a social person is a skill, just like basketball, it must be developed, and practiced. Some people are naturally gifted, but being around people and practicing (Which is fun) improves your social ability's , and keeps you on point.Also this tip than tmg gave you is gold.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (junot111 @ Mar 24 2007, 09:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>haha theres this spanish girl in my class too, shes my friend...some people think shes hot, but idk... I think she is just a girl that developed very quickly.. shes only 13/14 and she has a pretty big ass and tits already...and shes rich and her dad is white her mom is from peru..Yeah lolumh does this mexican/latina girl act white or does she act like a mexican whore?</div>Not a whore, she acts normal...
get the boyfriend jealous it can actually have a positive effect.and also heres another tip, improvise. use what you have available infront of you. thats what makes comedians so funny, the ability to make stuff up, not just say something based on a script..
What do you suggest I do? I rarely talk to here. What would be a great first thing to talk about and when would be the best time to work my way towards her to talk?
Just talk to her as a friend and try to comfort her, like try to find out things she's interested in and just talk to her about stuff and make sure she knows that your there for her.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (ASUFan22 @ Mar 24 2007, 05:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>What do you suggest I do? I rarely talk to here. What would be a great first thing to talk about and when would be the best time to work my way towards her to talk?</div>Well if shes in any of ure classes, or has any of teh same teachers an easy topic to talk about is about the class. That would get the conversation started, after that you could ask her about her a little since girls really enjoy talking about themselves. The key is to listen and pay attention to her so that you can say something when she is done. Overall just treat her as a regular person, but most importantly be youselve because you want someoen to like you for who you are
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (tmgbball15 @ Mar 14 2007, 10:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>dont smile whiel ure talking or talk to fats that just shows that you are a little scared.</div> Hey man, what you got against fat people? I have some friends who are a little chubby and I'm not scared when I talk to them.
you have to really know them..I think I was kind of fortunate because for me and this girl the whole class considered me the joker and we started talking like not anything big just occasionally I'd talk to her make her laugh but see I had friends who were in the "click" or whatever like friends with her.. so it kinda made it easier for them to know me...cause when you know people who know that person, u can do things like goto movies and stuff when that person is there...u know what I mean
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (The Captain @ Mar 24 2007, 07:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Hey man, what you got against fat people? I have some friends who are a little chubby and I'm not scared when I talk to them.</div> :HAHAHA:
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (The Captain @ Mar 24 2007, 04:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Hey man, what you got against fat people? I have some friends who are a little chubby and I'm not scared when I talk to them.</div>They're alright. You just have to make sure that they don't eat you.
