Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (ballerman2112 @ Nov 9 2006, 11:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I dont know if her and that other guy are dating or whatever, but if they are, wait for a little bit until that calms down, and then tell her. You dont want to start any trouble or anything....</div><span style="font-family:Tahoma">Oh, no, that guy's just a dumbass she knows. He asked her out once back in 9th grade, but Azzy rejected him. I was staring at them because I couldn't help but notice her talking to another guy.</span><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div><div class='quotemain'>btw, you told us she was in another post</div><span style="font-family:Tahoma">I know, but I didn't know Pinoy was checking that thread out, too...</span><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div><div class='quotemain'>aight, listen to this, dont just jump out and tell her, cause if she finds it weird then she may not be your friend much longer. Try just walking with a arm around her, make little flirtatious jokes. Talk sweet to her but make it seems your just joking. If she responds back the same, she proably like you too, if she doesn't and kindve doesn't go along, she probably doesn't like you that way. Try that, or a easier way is to ask one of her close friends.</div><span style="font-family:Tahoma">Hmm... Best advice so far. Everyone else had very good advice/tip, but this has to be the best one.</span>
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... I don't think that's the best advice. I think you are just saying that because of how worried you are of telling her you like her.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... Middle school crush threads...ugh boy.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (BrewCityBuck @ Nov 10 2006, 03:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Middle school crush threads...ugh boy.</div>How old are you? Ive always thought u were like 13 or something.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (austingriz76 @ Nov 10 2006, 06:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>How old are you? Ive always thought u were like 13 or something.</div> I'm 19 and in college.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <span style="font-family:Tahoma">I'm 16 and in highschool (11th grade).BTW, ASUFan, I believe you may be correct. I'm too worried, I guess.</span>
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (austingriz76 @ Nov 10 2006, 10:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>How old are you? Ive always thought u were like 13 or something.</div>LMAOBCB is like one of the older guys here.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... yeah, middle school....he's probably less than 3 years younger than you BCB, stop trying to act all grown up and wise.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (ASUFan22 @ Nov 10 2006, 10:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>yeah, middle school....he's probably less than 3 years younger than you BCB, stop trying to act all grown up and wise.</div> Well...from reading the last couple girl threads and how the people acted in them it seemed like middle school. If you like the girl, ask her out/ask if how she feels about you...don't waste time. I did all that sh*t in high school, just get it over with and be a man.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... well its not that easy for most people...
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (ASUFan22 @ Nov 10 2006, 08:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>yeah, middle school....he's probably less than 3 years younger than you BCB, stop trying to act all grown up and wise.</div>Until you get to college, you won't realize how different it is. The game is completely different in high school, though. You do have to play the games. Here it's not necessarily that way. Some girls play games (which you should not play if you are serious), and others do not. The ones that don't are worth putting yourself out there for.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div><div class='quotemain'>Well...from reading the last couple girl threads and how the people acted in them it seemed like middle school.If you like the girl, ask her out/ask if how she feels about you...don't waste time. I did all that sh*t in high school, just get it over with and be a man.</div> :rock: My sentiments exactly.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... But this is his bestfriend. Its different with just another chick, but he has to watch out and make sure he doesn't ruin the friendship they have.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... OK. As one of the elders of this board, I am glad to see a topic that I probably have had the most experience with. Every single girl that I have dated was at one time one of my good friends. I like ASU's point, but it is too simplistic and unrealistic.The thing is, if you are jokingly putting your arm around her, holding hands, etc. etc. etc, she probably already knows you like her. Girls have a sixth sense about these kind of things. IF she feels the same way about you, chances are that she is waiting for you to make a move. However, we are dealing with the unknown. Here is what I suggest:-Create situations where it is only you two. You will need personal space for this one. If either of you have a finished basement, go to that house as there will be no parental interuption just in case she makes it clear she wants something to happen. DO NOT make a move yet until she makes it ABSOLUTELY clear that she wants it to happen. The Plan: Find out which movies are out on DVD that she wants to see but hasnt seen yet. Call her and tell her that you rented it and remembered that she wanted to see it and that either she should come over or you would be more than willing to go over to her house and watch it. Durring this alone time, I would suggest one move that works all the time. Tickle. Tickeling can get very intimate at times and you never know what is going to happen when you rollin around. Plus, girls like a guy who can make them laugh.- Another idea is to tell her that you want to go to the mall to buy a birthday present for one of your female cousins around the same age. Ask her if she will go to the mall with you as you would like a womans input. You really dont have to buy anything, if she does make a suggestion and insists that it is the perfect gift and orders you to buy it, quickly think of something (make sure that it is out of your price range) and say "oh you know what? I remember her saying that she wanted ______. Im gonna call my _______ (other cousin, brother, sister, etc.) and see if they want to go in on it with me . well, wanna get something to eat". -Become THE friend somehow. That one who is always there when she has a problem. If she sounds like she is having a bad day, INSIST on hearing about it and try to 1. make her feel better or 2. solve it. Try to make your possible solutions fairly simple. You dont want to suggest something complicated that might backfire on her. And MAKE SURE to actuallly LISTEN to what she is saying. Girls love a guy who listens well. If you need to, stay on the phone with her for hours without saying a word. Just let her go and give her signs here and there that you are actually listening.-This is where it gets good. You are spending all this time with her alone, but it is all "friend" time. Start making the situations more and more intimate and romantic. For instance, go from watching a DVD at the house to taking her to the movies. Its a very subtle change, but it is just one step on your way to finding out if she likes you. Go from taking her to the mall to taking her to applebees then to taking her somewhere more intimate. The whole point of this is to make your friendship very presonal and improve your one on one relationship. Throughout this process you will be able to get a better hold on how she feels about you. Its only natural. And somewhere along the line, there may come a point where she comes out to you how she feels. If not, you will know when the time is. You just will. This process can take up to 2-3 months, but it is a sure fire way to find out how she feels about you without straight up asking. And a great way to let her know how you feel without comming right out and saying it. Plus, if she starts getting wierd about everything, states that she dosent feel for you like that, and asks if you feel the same way because of the way you have been acting, you can simply say no. You really havent shown her anything over-the-top as proof that you feel for her, therefore she cannot prove you wrong. So in case she does shoot you down, you can still preserve the friendship.DO NOT. I REPEAT, DO NOT flat out tell her that you like her. I hope this post has helped you.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Becar @ Nov 10 2006, 09:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>The Plan: Find out which movies are out on DVD that she wants to see but hasnt seen yet. Call her and tell her that you rented it and remembered that she wanted to see it and that either she should come over or you would be more than willing to go over to her house and watch it.</div>That seems pretty awkward... why not just ask if she wants to rent it and watch it with you. It seems like you're imposing if you just rent a movie and act like she didn't tell you about it.Also, what if it's like Pretty Woman or something? "Oh hey, I just rented this chick flick because I wanted to see it, but I remembered you wanted to see it... so how about it?"
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... [quote name='austingriz76' post='194763' date='Nov 10 2006, 10:21 PM']But this is his bestfriend. Its different with just another chick, but he has to watch out and make sure he doesn't ruin the friendship they have.[/quote]<span style="font-family:Tahoma">That's exactly the reason why it's hard. Thanks for understanding, man. Everybody else is ignoring the title "I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend..."</span> <span style="font-family:Tahoma">I am that friend. She comes to me with all her problems. I go to her with all my problems. We share personal things with one another.</span> <span style="font-family:Tahoma">Yeah, I already do that, too. We go everywhere together. That's how I began liking her in more than just a friendly way. At first, Azzy was just a friend of mine who I spoke to at school. Later on, we began going to one another's cribs and watching NBA games. She doesn't really like basketball, but still sits around and watches... :happy0144:In a matter of months in the 9th grade, we began hanging out basically 12 hours a day and on the weekends, we were inseperable. I don't want to ruin any of that, so I think your other couple of ideas are good. Your plan may work, but we're already past just hanging out. We've done almost everything you've stated, including the "tickling" sessions where we roll over one another on the floor.</span> <span style="font-family:Tahoma">I agree that it is a sure "fire way to find out how she feels about" me, but we're past that 2-3 month process. We're at 2-3 years now. 9th grade to now...BTW, just to add on to the "romantic" alone time moments you speak of:We kiss eachother on the lips when we part ways. Am I not the luckiest guy around or what? I kiss the girl I love without her realizing that I enjoy it more than I'm supposed to. :winkglasses: </span>
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... He seemed like you were very timid which is why I suggested that he rent it and then ask her if she would like to watch it with him. Asking her if she would want to rent it and watch it with you is definitely a good idea. If she suggests that you rent a chick flick for you two to watch together, then do it. Chick flicks are generally romantic and set a nice tone throughout the room. Be sure to act interested (even if you arent). Dont let your masculinity completely over-power your sensative side (and YES guys, we all have one). She probably knows that you arent extatic over watching a "chick flick", but she will appreciate that you are willing to watch one with her. All men have sat through a number of chick flicks. Most of us have actually thought one or two were actually pretty good (eventhough most would never admit it in public). P.S. Im not gay. Just not afraid to say it like it is.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Becar @ Nov 10 2006, 11:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>He seemed like you were very timid which is why I suggested that he rent it and then ask her if she would like to watch it with him. Asking her if she would want to rent it and watch it with you is definitely a good idea. If she suggests that you rent a chick flick for you two to watch together, then do it. Chick flicks are generally romantic and set a nice tone throughout the room. Be sure to act interested (even if you arent). Dont let your masculinity completely over-power your sensative side (and YES guys, we all have one). She probably knows that you arent extatic over watching a "chick flick", but she will appreciate that you are willing to watch one with her. All men have sat through a number of chick flicks. Most of us have actually thought one or two were actually pretty good (eventhough most would never admit it in public). P.S. Im not gay. Just not afraid to say it like it is.</div><span style="font-family:Tahoma">You're referring to the wrong guy. Your post must be directed toward Justice.</span>
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Illosophee @ Nov 10 2006, 11:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'><span style="font-family:Tahoma">That's exactly the reason why it's hard. Thanks for understanding, man. Everybody else is ignoring the title "I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend..."</span><span style="font-family:Tahoma">I am that friend. She comes to me with all her problems. I go to her with all my problems. We share personal things with one another.</span><span style="font-family:Tahoma">Yeah, I already do that, too. We go everywhere together. That's how I began liking her in more than just a friendly way. At first, Azzy was just a friend of mine who I spoke to at school. Later on, we began going to one another's cribs and watching NBA games. She doesn't really like basketball, but still sits around and watches... :happy0144:In a matter of months in the 9th grade, we began hanging out basically 12 hours a day and on the weekends, we were inseperable. I don't want to ruin any of that, so I think your other couple of ideas are good. Your plan may work, but we're already past just hanging out. We've done almost everything you've stated, including the "tickling" sessions where we roll over one another on the floor.</span><span style="font-family:Tahoma">I agree that it is a sure "fire way to find out how she feels about" me, but we're past that 2-3 month process. We're at 2-3 years now. 9th grade to now...BTW, just to add on to the "romantic" alone time moments you speak of:We kiss eachother on the lips when we part ways. Am I not the luckiest guy around or what? I kiss the girl I love without her realizing that I enjoy it more than I'm supposed to. :winkglasses: </span></div>Yes, but you just realized that you are falling hard for her. Therefore all you have to do is take my plan and advance it a little bit. Take it a little bit farther than I stated. I also think chick flicks are a GOOD idea. Get one that will definitely make her cry. When she gets all teary eyed, jokingly say "awwwww". Hopefully you are both laying down or are in a position where you can easily transition to laying down. Grab her and act like your jokingly cuddling (yes guys, cuddling) with her. Only stay in that position until you see a sign from her that she wants out of it. As for your kissing. Do you start with a hug and go to a kiss with the hug? If not, start doing this. If so, try embracing her a little more than you did before and make the kiss last .2 seconds more every time. <div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Illosophee @ Nov 10 2006, 11:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'><span style="font-family:Tahoma">You're referring to the wrong guy. Your post must be directed toward Justice.</span></div>yeah, got confused for a minute.
Re: Oh, No... I think I'm beginning to "love" my best friend... Simply tell her you love being her friend and you think there could be potential for more and you wanna see. Easy as that, and you won't mess up the friendship.
