How long does it take to truly get over someone?

Serious question.

I've been struggling with this for the past three years and wanted to know what y'all's experience is with it.

 

HOW OLD ARE YOU, SON?

 

Some people you never get over. Sad but true.

 

Nearly 21, but the age thing doesn't matter. This woman was my first and is the mother of my child.

 

Approximately how many other women have you splooged on. If the answer is less than 10, then there you go you need to go out and sow your royal oats bruh.

 

Damn, only 7 after. Wait, do strictly beejs count? Because if they do, 12.

Jesus.. I sound like a whore...

 

NO. Bang 3 more girls, and if you're still having this problem, let us know and we'll get to stage 2.

 

Do you know how hard it was to have sex with the black women in Salem that weren't related to my baby mama? That alone should be worth double. Also, I was with a girl who lives on 82nd and foster... That should be worth 3 points for escaping with my life.

 

You have a scarcity mindset. (There are a limited number of women out there)

Have an abundance mindset. (There are an unlimited number of women out there)

 

...for every year you were with baby's mama it will take at least twice as many years to get over her -- time and hobbies help most -- good luck!

 

Im still not over my first love and its been 13 years. Some people you will never get over, their presence in your life just has to be appreciated for what it was.

 

There is no one right answer. Depends on situation.

Some people I was totally over in 2 weeks.

One person I will carry with me lifelong. That person I will go to my grave loving.

If you feel that not "moving on" is a problem, then you may need to figure out - why can't you? Was it pride that was hurt? Do you honestly feel that person was the one true love of your life? Have you tried dating others? Do you want to "get back at" the person? Do you have unrealistic expectations, for example, thinking you will fall in love at first sight with someone new and if you don't, give up on him/her?

I mean, I can't answer these questions, only you can.

Would it help you to know we've all been through it? I once met a young man (he was just shy of 27, I was at that time about 3 years older) whose first every gf dropped him and when I told him not that it's any consolation, but we've all been there, he replied that it was consolation, he honestly thought he was the only person who'd ever been dumped.

 

Sometimes you never get over someone. But tbh, there are multiple people out there you will be happy with. Just take your love for the other person as a learning experience and hold a special place in your heart for them.

As you get older it's easy to get caught up on young love because it's passionate, all In, never been hurt before, puppy love.

Grown up love is great too, a lot less stupid drama, it's just different.

 

You never truly get over the first. Life will move on, you will fall in love again, have kids, great things will happen, I promise. But also, that first one will always be special, irreplaceable, bittersweet.

 

Aww

 

Baby mama? Shit, son. That's clearly going to take you 18 years to "get over".

Truth, FAMS!

 

OH SNAP, SON! :MARIS61: