How long does it take to truly get over someone?

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  1. BLAZINGGIANTS

    BLAZINGGIANTS Well-Known Member

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    Hammer. Dropped.
     
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    jlprk The ESPN mod is insane.

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    I dont remember our argument on this board but...I want you to get over it. For the good of both of us.

    And the baby.
     
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  3. HomerLovesKoolAid

    HomerLovesKoolAid I have a well-known member.

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    To answer this question accurately we need to know jlprk's age and blueness of Bellingham's dive bars.
     
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    julius Living on the air in Cincinnati... Staff Member Global Moderator

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    man, just be glad you aren't dating a single mom....


    oooh..
     
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    BlazerWookee UNTILT THE DAMN PINWHEEL!

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    If you still get to break off a piece every so often, next time you do her, pull it out of her butt and wipe your dick on the curtains. The angry rebuke you'll get from her will help you close the door on any feelings you may still harbor for her...
     
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    ^^ The Dirty Sanchez is another option. ^^
     
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    without knowing the sad details of your ever present and thus far perpetual longing, its really hard to say.

    so, the advice of el prez rings true. fuck everything until it feels better. if it never does, at least you tried.
     
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    May I put in another $.02?

    Sometimes after a parting people go one of two ways. The other person was a total creepazoid, a waste of time and energy, good riddance to bad rubbish, why did I ever spend time with that jerk? Or, the other person gets idealized, we were always happy together, everything we did was fun, I'll never meet another like him/her. Ask yourself if you are falling into either trap. Because on sober reflection, neither one is likely to be totally true (well, number one, if you got stuck with someone truly abusive but I don't think that's the case here).
     
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  9. magnifier661

    magnifier661 B-A-N-A-N-A-S!

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    It all depends on how u move on, as cliche as it sounds. My first divorce took forever to get over. I tried dating and trying to find a better woman, but that totally failed.

    My advice honestly is to work on yourself. Don't concentrate on partying because it only brings memories of your girl after you come home. I made music and painted, so finding a good hobby like camping or bike riding is very important.

    Lastly, and most important, forgive her and want nothing but the best for her. Even if it means finding a man that is good to her. Selflessness and forgiveness was my quickest way of recovery.
     
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    I think the concept "getting over someone" differs depending on the person. In my experience, one of the biggest problems people have in relationships--current or past--is the idea that they are less of a person without the other, or that their life is incomplete without that person. That seems to be the biggest obstacle in getting over someone; realizing that their absence in your doesn't necessarily make your life less, just different, and learning how to be OK with that.

    BDSMFan--You loved her, probably still love her, and likely will always love her. That's OK. But Mags is right--work on yourself. If you view her absence as a hole that must be filled, you'll never be satisfied. You need to be OK with yourself without someone in order to truly be ready to be with someone.
     
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