I'm going to have to agree with Mob and Justice on this one. She is saying she isn't ready for a relationship, but she also says her heart drop(or whatever) whenever she sees him. No matter how sure you are that they won't get together, if there were even the slightest possibility of them getting together she would more likely than not jump at the opportunity. In my opinion those feelings of jealousy are because you two have been close friends for quite a while and because you care a lot about her. My advice is, that if you truly value the friendship, then keep it as strictly that. If you do get into a relationship and things don't work out, that friendship will never be the same.
I was actually in the same situation with you Saint Baller with my current girlfriend. In 7th grade when I first met her at my new school, we became like best friends. We chilled and did stuff together and couple weeks later we ended up going out. Don't know what to say though, just tell her how you feel about her, might work.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (P.R.M.S. @ Jul 10 2007, 11:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>I'm going to have to agree with Mob and Justice on this one. She is saying she isn't ready for a relationship, but she also says her heart drop(or whatever) whenever she sees him. No matter how sure you are that they won't get together, if there were even the slightest possibility of them getting together she would more likely than not jump at the opportunity. In my opinion those feelings of jealousy are because you two have been close friends for quite a while and because you care a lot about her. My advice is, that if you truly value the friendship, then keep it as strictly that. If you do get into a relationship and things don't work out, that friendship will never be the same.</div>I'll say this about the other guyHe was a great friend of mine and hers both, he was always sincere and always there to listen if either of us needed help.Then his whore of a girlfriend messed up the friendship me and her had with him and he has became a cocky arrogant ***hole. She used to like him when he was a good guy, now she absolutely hates him, but she still feels the same way she used to but tells me he's to much of an ass hole to go out with anymore. Now before I've actually tried to hook her up with people and now that I feel this way I don't...
if you're REALLY good friends with her, have a friend-to-friend talkand just kinda bring up the subject a bit casually and ask hew some questions to get to know how she feels right now.if u really think she has gone through too much and isnt ready for this then just be patient.but I think it really is awkward especially if uve been friends with her your whole life
Im honestly still wondering why you feel "Used" by the girl who just wanted a F'ck buddy?! Should have never let her get away.
Dude I am telling you right now having the girl of your dreams growing up with you is straight out werid I know its happend for me. Like it use to be where I had just a hardcore crush but then it got all werid when we wanted to sit with each other because everyone will look at you and smile and make you feel really werid. Like when this chick is so hot and she becones like your best friend its so werid. My mistake was I never made a move I couldn't just go crazy on her because I cared about her to much. Then she moved away and I blew my chance to tell how I really felt. I never actually asked her out but we were so close it was insane. You have to tell her how you feel dude because you never know what might happen. Reading your story I know you like this girl don't waste anytime just tell her.
Here's something I wanna add...I've known her for ever and have been friends with her for ever but we became best friends about a year ago.Don't know if that will help.And people already smile and make us feel weird when we are together but we just brush it off.I don't know how to casually find out how she feels about me without letting her know how I feel confused and sh*t. I still don't know if I like her and all so yeah.anybody know a way I can ask a few questions to see how she feels without letting her know all this?
I actually have a couple of friends who everybody thought they were going out, but they were just best friends...turns out in Feburary they started dating...Go for it...
rape her ass, and just claim you were under mad influence after. she will then feel sorry for you and try to help you, and then learn to love you kinda like beauty and the beast
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (7Goat @ Jul 11 2007, 02:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>rape her ass, and just claim you were under mad influence after. she will then feel sorry for you and try to help you, and then learn to love you kinda like beauty and the beast</div>rape and switch for the win
My friend in school had a similar situation so just ask here to go out with you or if she really likes you. It will work out. Trust me. Also if you do start to go out then take it slow.
If you're actually best friends with this girl, my best advice for you would be to not even try to go into a relationship.I had this exact same problem myself. I was best friends with this one girl, and we started hooking up, and even though it wasn't ever said, we were basically boyfriend/girlfriend. I personally am going away to college so I took a step back and was like, whoa I don't want to get attached to this one person before I go away and feel like something is missing. Like I had always thought she liked me because she would always call me and hang out with me and stuff but it turns out that doesn't always mean what you think it does. That kind of F*cked me up now because we're not even half as close of good friends as we were a half a year ago. A half a year ago we were inseperable and hung out every day and sh*t, and now I've seen her like once in the last 3 weeks. It sucks a lot because I don't even want a relationship with her because I just want to be her friend.Trust me on this one though, the LAST thing you want to do is ruin a friendship for a relationship. It's the dumbest thing ever. Being best friends with a girl is better than ruining what you have now with a relationship. If you two are really awesome friends like you say you are, a relationship isn't worth it. I'm not sure what level of friends you two are at, but me and this girl were on the level of like telling each other absolutely every little thing. I knew everything about her she knew everything about me. She knew how I felt about her, I knew how she felt about me. Everything was out in the open and on the table. We both just kind of decided that it was pretty stupid to go into a relationship even though we already had been it was just unsaid, and that kind of hurt everything our friendship had going.
I'd of advised you to forget it, but this girl is attracted to you on some level. When it comes to tentative matters of romantic intrigue, you gotta amplify a woman's compliments a little louder. When she jokes and says that she's your type, there is a good chance she's not joking. Women are forever sensitive about "putting themselves out there." A girl nce walked past me three times and when I finally got the hint, she told me she doesn't usually put herself out there like that. What? Hot pursuit. But getting out of the friend zone is a tricky matter.-First thing you do is admit to yourself how you feel. You can't make a move if you're not committed. Likewise, you can't decide to let the whole crazy idea die if you're not committed to knowing exactly how you feel. So admit you're in love and stop being scared or let it go.-Second. If you think the friend zone thing is daunting for men, multiply it times itself and add some weight and you'll know how uncomfortable your typical chick feels about this stuff. I've got a playbook handy and it sounds like the blitz will fit you. Keep your mouth shut and let your actions speak one night. Invite her someplace, a crowded spot where she'll feel safe, but quiet enough for you to talk when you need to. Prime her up with secret admirer flowers the day before. Make sure they are delivered someplace in public - her job or her school. This should feel like a date. Open doors, let our chairs, and stand when she gets up or approaches the table. Wait for her to tell you how she felt about the anonymous flowers. Then tell her it doesn't matter how she feels, but you gotta tell her how you feel. Tell her, "I'm ready to be happy, and I think you're the only one that can help. I get jealous when you like other guys because I want to hog all those feelings for me." Something sincere like that keeping a straight face. Don't let her break you. DO NOT BEG. Just nod. No matter what she says initially, you still got a good shot. Women sometimes need time to get used to ideas. Wait for her to call you if she "rejects" you. Composure is the most important thing. Let her know she can't make you or break you. She'll respect your strength for both telling her how you feel and simultaneously demonstrating that you won't lower yourself. If she smells weakness, she'll sink you without being able to help it.
Thanks for the help guys, I still think I need more help...If anyone can IM me with help it'd be great.THE41SAINT is my aim.. just aim me.
Well first off how do you think she would handle it if you told her you had feelings for her. Like do you think it would make things really akward for her where it would be too weird for her to be around you anymore. If not then I think you should just go for it and tell her how you feel. Just if she rejects you make sure you make it look like your over her right away. I was in a similar situation that you were in. There was a girl at my school that I was really good friends with and I ended up getting stronger feelings for her than I had ever felt for anyone else before. After I told her, things were fine at first even though I got rejected and she didn't get weirded out by it at all. However a little while later I started coming on too strong too many times and it just made things way too uncomfortable for her so I've pretty much completely lost my friendship with her now. Losing my friendship with her was hard enough for me and I was just good friends with her so I can imagine it wouldbe much harder for you since you guys are best friends. So just be careful with how you handle things around her after you tell if you decide to do that. If you get rejected just make sure you make it look like your over her because Yankshater is right, it's not worth losing a friendship over it.
