OT "I'm Dealing With A Few Transgender Issues"

Well, that's bull crap as it pertains to me because, as I mentioned, I was perfectly cordial during the whole exchange.

 

yet apparently steaming on the insiide enough to post you were through with trying to understand the trans thing over a personality conflict with someone you're not even sure was trans? uh...ok......did you apologize to the person for your gender mistake? My reaction to a rude employee is to not give them my business again..but for some reason it's a trans issue with you? I'm being cordial throughout this whole post

 

I responded, "Ma'am" However, I think if someone is gonna do the crossover, they might also understand that others might not make that differentiation and, perhaps, be a bit more understanding as opposed to an indignant glare. That was my point in posting.

 

Maybe ABM should be more understanding.

 

that was not my question...I asked if you apologized for your gender assumption? I'm not saying the person wasn't snarky..I've seen plenty of snarky employees in my life ...hotels and restaurants...I also asked if you knew the person was transgendered or assumed it without knowing.. .on the surface from what you said it sounds like you offended the person and it made you uncomfortable that you were called out for it in a restaurant. .

 

I thought is was a male and said, "Thank you, Sir." I was quickly and unceremoniously brought into reality. There was nothing to apologize for.

 

yes there was but thanks for answering....just what I thought

 

If you say so. By the same token, there was no reason for the indignant response on their part.

 

Like what? Mistaking "her" for a man....which "she" was born as? Sorry, I may not be as perceptive as some.

 

No, what I think is, since there will probably be many more situations like this to come, I would only hope that the one who underwent the change might be a bit more understanding/respectful to those who may not realize the situation. I said "Sir" because I truly thought I was talking to a male.

 

What, calling them Sir? Really? Was that so bad? I would have said sorry had I not gotten the snotty response.

 

No worries, but I'd bet this wasn't the first, nor the last time this case of mistaken "identification" will occur with this person.

 

But who defines normal and different?

 

hard right wingers?

 

You too? I hate that when it happens.

 

I've wondered about certain people but I'm careful not to ask to avoid just such awkward situations. I try to find neutral ways in such encounters. But I can see some people with none to little experience in these situations making awkward but unintentional errors in those encounters.