OT "I'm Dealing With A Few Transgender Issues"

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    good...why didn't you just say that to begin with?
     
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    Because the dynamic continues to be in flux, that's why.
     
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    What is "the trans lifestyle"? Does every trans person have the same lifestyle? Is ABM living "the cis lifestyle"?
     
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    Cut the crap. You know what I meant.
     
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    It is a little strange how doing "manly" things, or construction, apparently means straight in this world. Because god knows no LGBTQ knows how to do construction, do "guy things", change a tire, spark plugs, oil, build things, etc.

    Thats for them straights!
     
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    the dynamic that seems to be in flux is your take on Trans identity...and letting everyone know how difficult it seems to be for you to accept. After all that doubt you post you will accept if he/she's trans and support that but the way you got to that post shows more than a little confusion...crandc is not confused about this issue...cutting the crap is your job when it comes to this topic..my 2 cents...
     
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    Thanks for all the insights. The real message in all of this, though, is that Alex is craving relationship - something he hasn't received from his biological father. Meanwhile, Pericles has stepped up, more or less taken Alex under his wing, and doing some fun, constructive things with him....which, apparently, Alex is enjoying doing.
     
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    Yeah, it is difficult for me. I mean, just look at the thread title. So what? Just because I don't personally agree with something, though, doesn't mean I won't be accepting of others' personal choices/values.. Oh, and per my other comments, above, Alex is seemingly enjoying his new digs....and he has a choice in the matter. Always will.
     
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    All that might be true, but having a "relationship" with a male (positive/negative, whatever) doesn't change who someone is sexually/gender wise. It might effect what kind of RELATIONSHIPS you have (healthy, unhealthy etc), but a bad relationship with a mother or father isn't going to all the sudden turn someone gay/trans, etc.
     
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    I’m pretty confused what working with tools has to do with gender identification, but hey what do I know I don’t even have Facebook
     
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    No I don't.
    For years I heard about "the gay lifestyle" as though all of us despite differences in nationality, ethnicity, gender, age, social class had the same lifestyle. No one would claim ABM, Bill Gates, Pipe Francis, Osama bin Laden, Elvis Presley and Nelson Mandela all had the same lifestyle because all were straight men. Talking of the gay lifestyle, the trans lifestyle, etc. is a way of othering us. We are outside normal range if people who have individual lifestyles.

    So maybe I do know what you really mean.
     
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    I've heard the term, "lifestyle" in that context for many years. Shoot, I even heard it used by my sister....who lived in a "married" lesbian relationship for over thirteen years.
     
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    So what is the "gay lifestyle" or the "trans lifestyle?"
     
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    clearly it doesn't involve time with other men doing construction work.
     
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    Just wait until they start singing karaoke together.
     
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    OK, so I blew it and completely misdefined your gay "life". I stand corrected.
     
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    Interesting that you just assume that Minstrel is gay, as if he's said something to lead you to believe that. Or maybe you actually meant it as some kind of insult.

    This, along with many many threads you create or post in, is not looking good on you.
     
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    WTF?
     
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    Dude, he's gay. Is that a crime?
     
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