OT "I'm Dealing With A Few Transgender Issues"

Wait, are we not supposed to lie? Shit

 

You too

 

Dviss was preaching. Not enough white people are calling out the racism of other white people. If you don't call it out you are condoning it. He was merely enumerating that.

 

I remember a good friend of mine (he's native/african american) telling me that for some people, they think every comment is about them. I.e., if you say "there are some white people who are racist", they will instantly think that person means them.

I will admit in my younger days I would get defensive when I'd hear that kind of statement. But it wasn't until my friend pointed out that if you're conscious of your actions, and are introspective about it (i.e., you're wondering if it's about you), chances are it's not. And if you read a statement "Man, I hate white people who are oblivious to the shit POC go through on a daily basis" and your initial thought is "yeah, they are getting hosed" instead of "well, I'm not a POC and I struggle, so buck up junior", then that comment is not about you".

Kind of like how you can love the US and realize that we have a long way to go before we are all treated equally, etc.

 

Don't take it personal. If it's said and someone takes it is personal, they may have some things to look at. Be accepting of it. Be understanding. Be open minded. Be conscious. It's out there. You hear it, call it out.

I have never gone to the thought that Dviss was calling me racist, not once. I just listened to what he was saying. I can't ever truly know what people of color go through, and yes they go through some shit. But, I can put myself in their shoes. I can think about how if a police officer pulled me over, what if I had to be afraid? What if I had to wonder if I was going to be shot just for the color of my skin? Even if can't ever truly understand that feeling I can acknowledge that it exists out there. That POC are going through that. That's just one example.

Introspection is good. It's a chance to ask yourself, what can I do? Am I doing enough? Etc. There is always room to learn and to gain better acuity.

Dviss can be loud. He is always clear and upfront with what he has to say. He's very passionate and for some it can be perhaps overwhelming. That's his voice and how he chooses to use it. I respect that.

 

I don't know if I'd call it loud as much as I'd say he was just speaking in a tone that lots of people don't like it when a POC speaks that way. People who assume he was being "loud" or "abrasive" are listening defensively. He wasn't speaking any differently than anyone else does, imho. It's just that from some people in our society, people like him are not "allowed" to speak that way, even tho it's perfectly fine when others (white people) do.

 

Oh, what I'd pay to see you grasp what it is you just admitted.

 

No, no I didn't.