So, I still see people holding doors for others. However, most other things I was taught seem to be disappearing. I was at Winco Saturday and just as my first items were hitting the cashier a lady walked up holding three things. I told her to go in front of me and she seemed kinda shocked. I see people who obviously notice this same situation and they don't offer the person the same . After the lady was done she turned and thanked me again. She was a middle aged black woman so I don't know what she thought about it and I would have loved to know but didn't ask.
I let people go ahead of me sometimes, but once you let one guy go, it seems like another lady comes up with two items, and if i dont let her go she acts all pissed off. People always think their time is more valuable than others and its annoying. Seems like its very common.for people to hold open doors in oregon. Personally, i just dislike people. Most of them are assholes and im already cynical enough.
My rule is one, I will let one car go ahead of me if people are in a parking lot trying to get on the road. If we all followed that rule things would move smoother.
Yes, courtesy and manners are if not dead, currently flightlining, and everyone is staring at its bluing body for the sake of entertainment. Kids aren't being taught the same things we did about manners. I hold doors, let people jump ahead of me in line, get on the bus ahead of me...I'm a god damned gentleman. The problem I see is all the teens from this new generation running around being rude jackasses. The world is changing @bodyman5000 and 1 and not for the good.
For several decades, I believed manners where dead. I used to tell many rude people my dog had better manners then they did. However, the last year or so, good manners appears to be making a comeback. The number of people showing courtesy and respect towards others has increased. I have no clue why, but I like it.
It was like that in China as well. I was quite surprised how quiet the students were in class. They were prepared and ready every morning.
I teach my son to hold doors/pull out chairs for ladies, look people in the eye when speaking and shaking hands etc. Chivalry will not die on my watch.
When i attended osu, corvallis people were incredibly polite and friendly. Portland is definitely full of more jerks. And the jerk population is growing with the cali transplants. San fran and most of cali is full of assholes.
You start opening doors for ladies, and letting them go first, you'll be accused of being sexist (among other things), or get a big fuck you from the feminists SJW's. It's a no win situation, quickly disappearing in America.
Good stuff man. Thank you for doing that. I hold open doors for everyone. I'll let 5-6 people in if need be. I got time. It's literally 15 seconds. If people have 2 items in line and I got a bunch, by all means. It goes on and on from there. I know no other way but to be chivalrous. And I'm damn proud of that.
The thing that people really seem surprised by is when I am getting a grocery cart and someone else walks up I give them the one I was taking and take another for myself. I always tell them I'm not responsible if it doesn't steer right. I feel like it is a selfish act somewhat because it makes me feel good but then I realize I feel good because my grandma would be happy.
This brings up another issue. I'm getting old (42) When I was little every 60 or 70 year old seemed courteous to me. I've noticed people in that age now are more often total assholes. I realized that new old people are from a different generation than the ones I grew up knowing.
