How do you shake somebody?

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  1. MickZagger

    MickZagger Well-Known Member

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    Okay, so this guy I work with wants to be my friend. He's a nice guy and all, we can get together and bullshit and its alright. But, now he wants to hang out ALL THE TIME. He's 45, married, has kids and invites me to hang out with him EVERYDAY. I made the mistake of giving him my number and now he calls me non stop. It wouldn't really bother me, but he's the type that doesn't accept no as an answer. I told him last night I couldn't hang out because I was working my other job. I had to repeat this 3 times over the course of a phone conversation and its like it didn't compute that I actually have to really work. Its kinda amusing, but fucked up at the same time.

    Bear in mind I have to work with this guy 5 days a week. How do I shake him without being an ass about it or creating too much tension? I have never met a married 45 year old, with kids that is even close to as needy as he is. My problem is I'm too nice to be blunt with him about it.
     
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  2. EL PRESIDENTE

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    Ask him when his daughter turns 18. He probably wants to jump your ghey bones on the dl though.

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  3. EL PRESIDENTE

    EL PRESIDENTE Username Retired in Honor of Lanny.

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    Is his wife hot?


    Seriously though not that hard. Don't answer his calls but return them on inconvenient times. Remain aloof and wishywashy. Be unavailable. Its strange to have long conversations with other dudes.
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    He probably sells Amway and wants you to join.
     
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    Natebishop3 Don't tread on me!

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    I've had this problem before. There's no easy way to do it man. He probably doesn't want to be at home so he's using you as an escape. Needy friends are impossible to shake though. It's either get rid of them entirely or deal with it.
     
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    Offer to suck his dick. It's how Jeff Gianola got rid of HCP.
     
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    yeah dudes like this are crazy, had a friend who would always say "i love you man" when he was hanging up, like we were family or something hahaha.

    just stop answering his calls, or find out what he absolutely hates and do it all the time. oh you hate rap? im going to listen to it loudly in the car.

    or use him financially, and for rides or designated driver or whatever
     
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    If his name is Sean, you are screwed.
     
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    Vacuum pack seal a kilo of powered sugar and then ask him to hold it for you.
     
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    murder him
     
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    Call him 14 times a day and just pester the hell out of him.
     
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    ABM?
     
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    Yeah.
     
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    Confess your man-love for him. Send him flowers. Make sure you tell all your coworkers how fabulous he is. Whenever you see him at work, whip it out and ask him "you looking for more of this?"

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    Damn son..... you go and start a thread about me? I just wanted to hang and have a beer every now and then!
     
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    You're suggesting the "sleep with his wife" strategy?

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    Provoke him to make 2 self-deprecating posts saying that he's not sincere. Then cite some unused rule.
     
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    You guys are all Pussy's.


    Just be straight with him and tell him what's up. "I like you as a friend and all man, but I'm really put off by you calling me all the time. I know your really excited, but can you tone it down a tad?"
     
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    start calling him "fams"
     
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  20. EL PRESIDENTE

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    horrible idea. he'll just hate you for brushing him off and then try to take you down from the inside at work. Start dissing you to coworkers, etc.

    If you ignore him or seem to busy, he'll just assume you live too fast a life to have time for him.

    People react worse to the truth than to brushing them off.
     
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