I am questioning how I need to set rules for a gay daughter. I mean it's easy when they are straight because if a guys over; you give a rule that their door stay open. And if they have girls over, they can keep the door closed. So since she is gay, do I tell her if a girl is over she must keep the door open and if a guys over, she can be in her room with the door closed? BTW: I totally respect her decision. I want whatever makes her happy.
My parents had an open-door policy that was genderless; I had to have the bedroom door open when I had friends over, period. It was simple, it didn't discriminate, and I was as okay as a teenager could be about it ("I hate you, now take me to the mall!"). Also a no lock policy.
Shouldn't matter. I have a gay daughter, too and the rules are the same for her as they are for her straight brother - the door stays open. End of discussion. Clear and consistent. BNM
yeah, if you just make them "keep the door open" that just means all her pent up hormones will just go buckwild when you're out shopping or something. and then when you come home early.... :MARIS61:
I'm only kind of kidding though. just kind of show her you respect her to make the right decisions and she should respect you back (in theory).
Her and I have a very close and open relationship. I am leaning on giving her space as long as she respects my house. I just don't really know how I can handle it. I mean I'm no prude and don't think kissing and shit is bad; but sex is disrespectful in your parent's house.
You can't think its not going to happen when you're gone though. Teenagers have sex, it happens. out of sight, out of mind is what you need to be aiming for here. But just like they don't want to see you and your fiancee/wife/whatever make out or hear the bed knocking...you don't want to see it either.
That's the crux of it; the practicality is they will have sex... ...god I don't want to have kids today. STRESS!
Another rule I have is no one who isn't my child is allowed in my house when I'm not home. And, it's not really about sex. It's a safety/liability issue. Accidents happen and sometimes kids do stupid stuff. I don't smother them, but I want to be home to help prevent mishaps and respond when they do happen. My kids have their friends over all the time, and I'm glad they do. I want them to have active social lives and lots of strong friendships. BNM
Open door policy would be the best way to go. You should also have a discussion with her about your rules/expectations you have for her. It's wonderful you have a close and open relationship with your daughter. And that's evident when she tells you about her sexual orientation. It's a sign of respect. Keep her that way, Mags! It's becoming an endangered concept - children showing respect for their parents.
you should do a negative feedback thing. every time you can hear them having sex, you and your wifey have LOUDER sex to gross her out. she makes out with someone on the couch when you're there..you do the same thing and disgust her likewise. :MARIS61:
