First of all, there have been many threads in these parts concerning gay marriages...the morality issues, the debates....and the like. This is NOT one of those. Secondly, I want to be up front that in no way am I intending to draw or lure anyone into some type of argument....I'm merely asking questions because I'm simply curious on the matter. It very much intrigues me as I see our country shifting more towards the acceptance and commonplace of the gay lifestyle. My question is, in light of Sophia's letter to President Obama, below, I wonder if having two Dads will in any way shape her viewpoints on her own relationships as she begins to mature into a young woman? I know that many in here have claimed that being gay may more a case of being "born" that way, as opposed to being learned behavior. It intrigues me that Jamie is very much "defending" her two Dads. Will that dynamic change if/when Jamie begins to date boys? In that same vein, might her chances of finding "Mr. Right" be restricted due to some boys not accepting the environment in which she has been raised? Again, these are all simply questions. I in no way am wanting to insert my own beliefs into this discussion. It is clear to me that the gay lifestyle in America is growing....and becoming very much woven into our culture as a whole. I'm simply wanting to play the scenario out a bit and inquire as to what some of those outcomes might look like. Thanks.
There are some who would argue it is a determinate to her psyche. I honestly think there is not much scientific data on this subject yet to give a strong opinion one way or the other. However, I think it is safe to say she does need some strong female role models in her life as well.
Here is how I look at it ABM; is it possible that having gay parents could have some kind of long term effect on a child? Sure. Could be a positive effect, could be a negative effect. With that said, how many kids have negative baggage from straight parents? How many kids are in abusive families? How many kids are in families that do not provide for them? If a gay couple can provide a happy and loving home with everything a child needs in life, why would you deny them that? I think it's more important that a child is provided with a loving environment and a stable home, rather than worry that they might turn gay because they have two dads or two moms.
I don't think this is an issue. I don't have gay parents and I wouldn't even think of dating a person who thought it was wrong/immoral/gross/weird to have 2 dads. Just the same way I wouldn't think of dating someone who thought interracial marriage was wrong (that one I do have experience with). So, will her 'Mr right' be restricted because of a certain segment of the populations' beliefs? Yes. But it is no more restricted than a lot of others who were raised in more traditional families.
I don't think he's concerned about the child turning gay, but he does raise a point that she may have an awkward situation with boyfriends. But as you pointed out, very few people don't have awkward situations involving their significant other and their parents.
Oh I'm not saying ABM thinks that, I just think that would be the prevailing fear of most people who are against gay couples adopting children.
Well my daughter is gay and so is my niece. When my niece asked me about adoption or having a child through a "sperm bank"; I replied "You do what you feel is right. No one can tell you what to do." I think if someone is capable of raising a child, regardless of sexual preference; then more power to him or her. I think sexual preference is on the person deciding it. I know my daughter and she is 100% family first. So is my niece. I think they would both be awesome parents. Yes the children may see some "ignorant children taunting"; but that's no difference than the minorities that received the same issues 20 years ago. Change maybe rough; but if you don't stand your ground, then nothing will change.
I don't think environment has anything to do with how the kids' orientation will end up. I do think environment has everything to do with how happy and healthy the kids will be when grown up. And I don't see how the parents' orientation would be a negative effect, period.
Thank you. When I look for a leader of the Country; I look for what that person can do for us financially. Obama just doesn't get it, IMO. He reminds me of that frivolous spending wife that maxes credit cards because she thinks the family needs new TVs and cars (Even though each bedroom already has TVs and they own 3 cars). That is seriously dangerous. My daughter actually wanted Romney to win as well.
I'm not apposed of gay marriages. I just think the State of the Union is more important than that civil right. But be shocked that I care more about the financial dynamics of this country. The backward movement will be felt for many years after Obama leaves office.
I mean in a general sense, not with who you voted for this time around. Just shocked in general you would be opposed to gay marriage with a gay daughter.
Hahahaha I forgot that many Democrats generalize our party as extreme right wing facists! Sometimes I think my social views are more moderate than many Democrats. I believe in Republican fiscial views. I also believe in less federal government and more "state government control". I mean WTF man?! Why do we have a state in the first place if we just allow the Federal Government total control?
