If you have questions about relationships or want to discuss feel free to post it in this thread....here's a blog I wrote a couple of days ago. I didn't mean everything I said in it (pick up on the sarcasm), but I did make some valid points. <div class="quote_poster">Quote:</div><div class="quote_post">Oh boy what a week. This morning I woke up and I realized something?.life is short. The other day I had a near fatal car accident but fortunately I?m still breathing today. Anyways to get my main point?.I don?t have time to mess around. And this goes for school, my career, AND especially women. Wait a minute let me be more specific (some of ?you?ll? will hate me for this)???.especially black women. Yes, yes, yes, I can already see the faces of my beautiful Nubian Queens scrunching up, but I?m serious. For my whole entire life I?ve been attracted to nothing (for the most part) but black women, I?ve talked to nothing but black women, I?ve dated nothing but black women, slept with nothing but black women, bought things for nothing but black women, emotionally supported nothing but black women?..I think you get the picture. But today I woke up and realized, was it really worth it? I mean that in the sincerest of ways. The problem is with the majority of the black women that I?ve talked to, dated, etc. is that for some strange reason you like putting your significant others through an obstacle course. And that goes for everything. From the time we try to approach you to talk to you to even when we actually get to know each other, ?it?s the same ole ****.? It?s like you?ll get some type of thrill out of making my life a living hell. Well today I?m standing up and saying?.I?m sick of living in the hell hole, this brother wants a piece of heaven. It?s not funny, it?s not cute, and I don?t find it entertaining at all. Not trying to sound arrogant but I think I am a pretty decent guy. I look good, I have a job, I go to school, I treat women with the utmost respect (won?t catch me calling females bitches or hoes?props to my moms who is a black woman on that one), and occasionally I might write a poem for you (a really good one)?.yet despite all of that it?s still ?the same ole ****.? I can?t talk to some of ?you?ll? by just approaching you, because a lot of the times you try to act funny. And by funny I mean A. act like you?re too good (nose in the air) to talk to someone B. seem to find the way I speak as ?talking white? just because I talk in complete sentences C. and a lot more crap that I don?t want to get into And that?s just the initial stage. That?s just the sprinkles on the multi-layered/heavily frosted cake better known as ?the black woman?. Because once you get that number, that?s when the reaaaaaaaaaaaaaal fun starts. Now you have to ?prove? yourself. And by ?proving? yourself I mean just that. I honestly believe that if given the proper amount of time that I can be with any female that I want. I have enough looks and personality that most females would consider attractive. But here?s the catch I don?t want to waste time doing all that. I don?t want to play games of cat and mouse when I know deep down inside that there is some attraction there, plus I have waaaaay too much pride to sit and chase after someone (I deserve better). I like honesty, but quite honestly a lot you sisters aren?t all that honest with your feelings. I?ll give you a couple of scenarios (some will hate me for this ****, but don?t worry I still have love for you ladies). I ?was? in a relationship with one chick and it got the point where everyday it seemed like we were arguing. And the main point of these arguments was ?there was no damn point.? She was just starting them just to start them. This is universal problem with black women. I don?t know if it?s PMS, the day to day struggle that you?ll go through or what, but it always seems like there is some sort of hard shell around you to prevent me from really understanding you. It?s like you feel the need to put up this force field to protect yourself from the rest of humanity. Currently I?m ?trying? to talk to someone, but from the looks of things right now it will probably go nowhere (like the majority of black females that I?ve talked to). I?m really trying to get to know this girl she?s very cute, smart, sweet,etc? but she?s not making it easy. I can tell by just a couple of phone conversations that I will have to resort to jumping through hoops to get this black woman?s full attention?.and the funny thing is, she knows this. I was trying to talk to another girl last year who was cute,smart,sweet, but it was the same thing. I could see that I was starting to break her down, but I didn?t have the energy to complete the process. I almost want to go up to every black woman I approach and ask her ?hey here?s the deal, I think you?re a very attractive young lady and I?m sure we can form some sort of relationship, BUT if you?re into making a brother go through an obstacle course then you need to move around.? Better yet I?m thinking of proposing a law to congress to make all black women walk around with shirts that say ?beware of the force field that surrounds me, yeah I look good but do you really want to put up with my bullshit?? That will probably be too long to put on the front of a t-shirt, but if we can make it two sided I?m sure it could work. What I?m trying to say is ?stop with the games black women.? Yes I?m talking to you ALL. The reason why the brothers are leaving you for Becky, Susie, Rosalinda, and Pham is not because they like long straight hair or that they have some sort of inferiority complex, it?s because of?????you and ONLY you. I love being able to relate you?ll on the same experiences, I love having conversations, I love the way you look, smell,cook (well at least most of you), move your body, etc., but quite frankly I?m tired of the bullshit. So this day April 5th 2007 will be marked as the day that I ?Jahari Kavi? will step outside the realm. This weekend I might go to a spot where the majority of the music played is Justin Timberlake (and I hate that fruit cake) and Britney Spears. Who knows while I?m at the spot I might pick up a girl who actually looks like Britney Spears (before she became an overweight slut). I might even take her out on a few dates and let her meet the parents, because black women have pushed me to my limit. Okay, okay, okay I know the initial responses to this are ?we won?t miss your ole tired ass anyway?, or ?you?re just another one who?s selling out, don?t worry there?s plenty of men who want me???stop for just a minute and really take in what I just wrote about and ask yourself ?is he talking about me,? because chances are I am and chances are ?you? have some changing to do. I am a loving black male and I really do love my black females, but currently I?m finding it real hard to put up with your ?fun and games.? So I?m out. I?m going to hang with Tiger, Kobe, O.J. (I?ll make sure he leaves the knife at home), Cuba, and Taye Diggs?and just to let you know I?m not happy saying this, I really tried to make it work, but too much ?work? with no play is never a good thing. Feel free to leave comments (positive or negative) </div> Yeah I was sorta pissed when I wrote it, but the truth comes out sometimes when we're pissed. Just to let you know I'm not giving up on black women, I'm just growing really tired of some of their ways.
Hey it aint black women. You just havent found a woman on your level yet. You dealing with little bitty ass girls. Let me tell you this Im not talking about age im talking about maturity level. Stop looking for a woman and focus on your career. You will have a conversation with a woman on your level. Sometimes when you stop looking for something it falls right in your lap. It worked for me. when I met my girl I was thru with the dating madness. Now we have been together 4 years strong. You got to look at a relationship with the opposite sex like a business merging. Its not all about the fluffy stuff. youve got to be headed in the same direction. I got to go now. I will elaborate later on this later. Im going to girls parents house they are having a seafood cookout. Gotta get my grub on.
<div class="quote_poster">Quote:</div><div class="quote_post">Hey it aint black women. You just havent found a woman on your level yet. You dealing with little bitty ass girls. Let me tell you this Im not talking about age im talking about maturity level. Stop looking for a woman and focus on your career. You will have a conversation with a woman on your level. Sometimes when you stop looking for something it falls right in your lap. It worked for me. when I met my girl I was thru with the dating madness. Now we have been together 4 years strong. </div> I realize I haven't found the "one" yet...to be honest I'm not even looking for the "one" right now, and I'm the type of guy that lets things fall in place, BUT when they do fall in place with black females I notice the "shell" that does exist around them.
Yeah, all women can be troublesome - not just black women. I've met all types of women: black, white, Asian, hispanic, etc. You just haven't found the right one like michiganave said. EDIT: Btw, what type of girls have you dated (in terms of race)?
I've dated nothing but black girls....I've talked to some mexican chicks before but we never actually went out (for whatever reason). I'm going to be upfront with this girl I've been trying to get at today, so we'll see where that takes me, who knows I might come into this thread tomorrow being a happy person.
Well this is not a specific women problem, but has anyone ever faced the dilemma of having a hot girl who is pretty cute, but there is a huge height differance? How do you guys handle that? I try to keep a height minimum on girls I date.
<div class="quote_poster">Blur Wrote</div><div class="quote_post">Well this is not a specific women problem, but has anyone ever faced the dilemma of having a hot girl who is pretty cute, but there is a huge height differance? How do you guys handle that? I try to keep a height minimum on girls I date.</div> The shortest girl I've ever dated was around 5'1" or maybe shorter I donno. My fianc?e is 5'8". I don't have a problem with height usually as long as the girl isn't taller then I am or just simply way too short that it looks rediculous. Though I think I would've made an exception if the girl really cared for me and I knew her very well. Funny note; one thing I noticed is that of all of the girls I've ever dated all of them have big breasts. lol
<div class="quote_poster">Mamba Wrote</div><div class="quote_post">I'm 5'11, my girl is 5'0.</div> Mamba...?
<div class="quote_poster">M Two One Wrote</div><div class="quote_post">The shortest girl I've ever dated was around 5'1" or maybe shorter I donno. My fianc?e is 5'8".</div> word. my girl (who i'm sure,i'll marry) is 5'9", i'm 6'3".
So I was at my bro's house last night talking to this girl, I've known her for about a month now but only see her on Friday/Saturday's because i only see her when I get drunk at my friends house. So anyway this is like the fourth time I've hung out with her and we were talking for a while last night, I was completely shitfaced too so I can't remember everything that was said exactly as it was said. After a while, as shes resting her head on my lap while we're on a couch, she says something like "Damn, its too bad you're not a few years older or else we could actually do something." I was a little shocked, I knew she was older than me but I find out that shes 19, I'm only 16 (will be 17 next week). Needless to say inside my head I was like "****!!11!1!!1!!". Not only am I getting nothing but I'm wasting my time with her. Why the **** don't they tell us before all of that bull that nothing is going to happen? I don't have a problem with her being older than me but I can see where it could be a problem while I'm a minor and shes an adult (and her dad is a cop). Plus I doubt she'd want to be known as that college student who goes out with a high school junior. Guess I can always shoot for "friends with benefits" status, helps even more that every time we see each other we're drunk. And then one of my best friend's girlfriend was all over me last night too, she said she wasn't coming onto me, and I don't think she really was, but she was getting a little too physical. My friend said it was cool and he knew I wasn't doing anything with her but I still tried to get the hell away from her. Weird night. I almost got into a fight with the first girl's brother too, me and him got into a drunken slap fight a few weeks ago but last night it was for real and he wasn't drunk so I guess he really didn't like me. We had to leave at 10:30 because the DD wanted to go or something, if we were there a few more hours I would have had a chance to score. On a semi-OT note this thread is quite therapeutic .
Man, this girl at work is really getting to me, its a strange situation I'm in here. I really want to make a move on her, although I dont really want to do it IN the workplace, last night we were polishing glasses together (alone), and she was being all playful and flirty etc. with me again (whipping me with the towel, blowing me kisses etc. etc.), and she was bascially right up on me, like 10-15cm face to face space, so it was pretty intimate I guess you could say, but I'm still under the impression she has a boyfriend, so I dont want to make a move and possibly make it awkward between us as friends. She also offered to give me a ride home, which I accepted, and she hasnt asked to give me a ride home for quite some time. So I dunno what the hell is going on, what I should do, or what. I really like this girl, and I want to be with her for the long run, not just a one night stand or anything like that, but I am completley clueless as to what I should do...
Damn man, just ask her if she's seeing anyone and if she's not then see if she'd like to go out with you. Not that difficult, yeah?
<div class="quote_poster">M Two One Wrote</div><div class="quote_post">Damn man, just ask her if she's seeing anyone and if she's not then see if she'd like to go out with you. Not that difficult, yeah?</div> Yeah, I know what you're saying, I dunno, its just kind of difficult, being in the situation we're in, for some reason. I'm just trying to tread very lightly with her, I dont want to ruin anything between us, wether thats as friends, or more. It's just strange because she'll come into work sometimes, like depressed and hardly says a word to me, then she'll come in at other times, and be like she was last night with me. I dont just want to assume anything either, for all I know she may just be "trying to have fun" with me, rather than give me signals as to anything more than that, and especially since we work together, it would become tough if things suddenly became awkward between us. But then, in saying that, what if she is trying to give me a sign/s, and I dont act on it? I'm just thinking / obsessing too much now. Next week, I'm just going to calm myself, and go into work, and just go for it. This woman stuff really does my head in, lol. As Damon Wayans said on My Wife & Kids once "Son, theres only one thing stopping me from going to play for the other team"
I'm macking on a 4'11" girl right now and i'm 6'3". She just got out of a relationship so i'm going in for the rebound kill. I invited her to my friend's party coming up and that should be where the mack is officially laid down. But i'm not sure what i want from her... i'm charming the pants off her for sure but I don't really want to go out with her so i'm just gonna play the ball where it lays.
<div class="quote_poster">Blur Wrote</div><div class="quote_post">Well this is not a specific women problem, but has anyone ever faced the dilemma of having a hot girl who is pretty cute, but there is a huge height differance? How do you guys handle that? I try to keep a height minimum on girls I date.</div> My fianc?e is 5'3/5'4 and I'm about 6'9 I think , so that is one huge height difference and has never really bothered me or her. I have always said when you are laying down, you are both the same height. For some reason I have always liked to be much taller than who I date. Last thing I want is a girl who is anything close to what I am. What make It seem freakish to me.
I'm about 5'8" and my girlfriend is about 5'2". I'm quite a bit taller than her and for me, height isn't really an issue. As long as she isn't taller than me, I don't much care.
Well I mean height isnt a very big difference anyway if you think about it. I'm 5'11, and the girl I'm trying to get at at work is about 5'9, so she is pretty tall (her dad is like 6'5)
