summary: Boy posted some gangster stuff about shooting people and drugs on Facebook. Uncle beats nephew , forcing him to recant everything he posted and makes him post video of beating and recant on Facebook
I don't approve of corporal punishment, but it is good to see parents standing up against gangs (real and fake).
I didn't watch the video, but I don't get the problem with corporal punishment. Some of the biggest lessons I ever learned as a kid involved a thick belt or fraternity paddle and a very red ass. There are some behaviors a "Time Out" and a good talk can't cure. The executive function in the brain doesn't fully develop until the early 20s. Until that point intellectual reasoning can only go so far.
While I'm not sure I'll ever spank my kids (should I have any) I agree that I learned a lot as a child knowing that there were physical repercussions for bad acts. I don't think that time outs or mere talking would have had the same impact on me... I was too much of a smart ass and quite good at both rationalizing my actions and entertaining myself. Ed O.
I had the same problems regarding my big mouth. It's going to kill me to spank my son, but in the end it doesn't matter how it makes me feel. It's what's best for him that matters. The key is never to give physical punishment when you're angry.
I always see bad parents at the mall just yelling and abusing their kids. Why even have kids when you treat them like a piece of shit? That shit bugs me. They basically treat them as if they are pets.
I think teenage boys especially respond to physical punishment. I know its sexist but I base it on my own experiences. Teenagers are the most unpleasant creatures to be around and they make some of the worst decisions. I know I had some sense knocked into me on more than one occasion.
I can only recall getting spanked a few times as a child. I remember the last time rather well 'cause I started laughing somewhere around stroke number two or three. I was pretty well behaved for the most part.
I agree, so what are you going to do when your son just ruined your favorite *object*? Are you going to not be angry about that? Maybe have your wife who doesn't care about it punish him?
Counting to ten works wonders. If it doesn't work, you have to walk away until do you regain control. Kids can drive you nuts, but you can't ever let them see you lose it. It can be REALLY hard to control yourself, but your feelings have to come second when you take on the responsibility of being a parent.
I don't agree with the father posting the video on youtube. If you take the punishment out in public like that you are just going to submit the kid to ridicule and he could very well make the jump from fake gang banger to real one.
