You post as if you know people and you don't. Just stop with the presumptions. Relax and enjoy people as they are.
Positive is always the preferred whenever possible. To do so without a sense of reality is where some go over the top in a Polyanna manner. To ignore the downside and therefore not even prepare for it can be dangerous but to focus on the positive is so much better for the long term.
Really? This thread started because people assumed they knew me..... I'm 100% relaxed my friend. I'm hoping more people will become the same if they chose to read some of the links.
Can you imagine if GM's were "Realists" by the standards perpetuated in this forum? Everyone would be frozen in paralysis by analysis.
For some of us it is our jobs to analyze situations, data, numbers, look on ways to improve, do better etc. Just because YOU may find some of the language negative, does not mean everyone would. I'm sure some of the people perpetuated as negative, are nothing like that in person or at work. It's a forum bro. If you want real negativity go check out oregonlive.com comments
Just remember that "analytical" begins with "anal" and it will help you to take your thoughts a lot less seriously. All the analytics in the league had the Blazers nowhere near the 6th spot in the West at this point in the season and yet, there they are.
Text constantly loses context of the way someone says something too. For instance, if I say "f you" to a friend through text, he could think I'm clowning him, pissed off at him, or I literally want to @SlyPokerDog him
I'm about as positive a person as you will find. I watched a dvd based on one of these power of positive thinking things. I always look for the bright side of things. Since I started trying to be positive I've lost 130lbs, made twice as much money, got married and want for nothing. If you read my OT threads they are often about something pissing me off. Being positive doesn't make me Mother Teresa or Shaquille O'Neal aged 20. The thing is that I have complete confidence in myself. It doesn't change what I see with my own two eyes.
I think you need to be moderate with all your feelings. There's are times when being a cynical about a particular subject gives a sense of levity. But also, procrastination is the worst way to destroy your love of life. Human beings are like batteries, we run on positive and negative energy. Wire yourself accordingly, folks.
Very nice. Honestly sounds alot like my story. I like to try to provide a happy positive environment and how people think about that will not change me at all. I know what works for me. Sometimes I try to teach and fail because I think what works for me will work for others... bad thing to assume.
Exactly what I told the guy on PM when he msgd me. It's a fucking basketball forum. Dude takes this shit way too seriously
As far as meds go, they can be wonderful things. My uncle was in Vietnam. In the 80s he tried to kill my dad with an axe and once shot at my grandfather with a shotgun. He was in and out of jail, looked like a dirtier Willie Nelson. He was the black sheep, batshit crazy member of the family. Nobody knew what he'd been through but Vietnam ruined him. In the mid 90s he was put in a hospital and given treatment, medication included. I hadn't seen him for a few years and I went to a family Christmas dinner. I walked in and saw this nicely groomed man in a suit sitting with a nice looking lady. He got up, shook my hand and said "I'm your uncle, we have never really met" I was speechless. He got a job, married the lady (a nurse) and became the most respected of the 5 children my grandmother had raised. I'd always heard that before the war he was the nicest and smartest of the kids. Those meds helped him immensely, I don't know what they were but I know there is no way he'd have turned his life around without them. He hadn't for 20 years before them.
I just never thought about what I wanted in life. I was pretty much pay as you go without worry of the consequences. I made it through, but really thinking about what I wanted in my life helped a ton.
Truly traumatic situations, war. death vividly in front of you... can really mess with the mind for sure. Also there are many individuals who need a chemical balance within. My brother is that way. What I dont like about meds is it seems to be many parents form of supervision. Cant control your kid? Put them on meds. Have adhd? putt hem on meds.. In legit cases, Im all for medication, but I think we ( american society) use meds way more than we probably should for any old thing. Then the mind has no training to get through things on its own... somewhat like how people feel about hand sanitizer and germs. you cant build up a tolerance if your always cleansing yourself. Maybe not the best analogy, but I do know one of my brothers was put on the wrong meds by a doctor because my parents couldn't control him when we were younger and it made him much worse.
Exactly!!! You know I tried to quit smoking cigs a few times in my 20's but never could. until I realized I could actually sing and the smoking was hindering the growth of my fragile voice... made it REALLY easy to quit once I knew what I actually wanted to do. No patch, no ecigs (didn't even exist) no mentor or coaching or anything. Just quit.
But we are also all human beings trying to come together to discuss something we all share in common. Were not robots or a number on the forum. There are hearts and minds and bodies behind the keyboards.
Saw Chris Cornell with Audioslave 7 years ago, I think. Anyway, he came out and he sounded like a Quadrajet carb with no choke warming up. Once it cleared a bit he was ok. I thought I'd read a story a couple of years later that he quit smoking. So we went and saw him at the House of Blues touring solo. He was fucking amazing. Hope he still doesn't smoke.
To me: Standing in front of the mirror and saying "I am satisfied with my penis, it is big enough to do the job." = positive thinking. Standing on a roof-top with your pants around your ankles waving your penis at the crowd and crowing "look how huge it is!" = douchebag/hubris. Blazer fans like to rip on the fans of other teams for being arrogant and insufferable....but some of the threads here don't strike me as any different. YMMV.
