OT "I'm Dealing With A Few Transgender Issues"

Again, thanks so much for that. Much looking forward to seeing Rayne (was just informed of the new name). I hope Rayne will be OK, too.

 

Love the name! Did you get pronouns as well? I'd love to gender Rayne the way they want.

 

I did not. Alex used to call herself "Sarah". Not certain why the name change.

 

Names changing is normal; we get to pick our names, and as we change and evolve in our identity, we might find our early choices don't suit us like they used to. I personally have been through three names: Maddie, Madeline, Stephanie. I'm legally Tisiphone now, though I like Stephanie still as a nickname off of that. I may change my name legally back to Stephanie at some point, since I'm not as angry as I was when I chose Tisiphone in 2020. Though I do like how weird it is!

A reminder that everyone can just... change their names if they want to! It's not some special thing only trans people do.

(Also I used "they" in the 'I don't know what pronouns to use here' way, not the 'I think the pronouns are they/them' way)

 

They collectively changed my name to A2M in here. It really didn't stick with me. Go figure.

 

I'm an S2 minority who sometimes feels the need to stand up to things. Don't forget it.

 

Yeah, I'm still with The Crystal Furs as their bassist and mixing/mastering engineer; we got signed to a UK label (Reckless Yes), so our last album (Beautiful & True), and our next album (In Coastal Light) are or will be on vinyl! https://crystalfurs.bandcamp.com/

I haven't done any solo stuff recently, but I have been gearing up to: I have a new bass and guitar, and I'm getting a new keyboard in a few weeks (I pre-ordered it, but it hasn't shipped yet).

 

Well, considering you have things all figured out, it's purely academic.

 

PS: While I've been very serious about the racist/hater conversations, the A2M barb was completely tongue-in-check. Pardon the pun. That term has been bandied about in here for years.

In terms of my dialog in here, folks probably know me more than anyone else in here. Open your eyes.

 

Thanks, pops. I feel much better now.

 

K

 

Tell that to @THE HCP.

 

You've come to the right place because I'm quite certain that we all care and I am near the top of that list. Just a little support from me. Now I see why so many members in here like you.

 

My uncle used to have a few transgender issues...

in his "hidden" playboy box. He had a playboy subscription for years and hid the box in the garage.

Of course when I (about 12yrs old) happened upon it I stole the first one I could get my hands on.

Imagine my surprise when I figured out later that one of the models was transgender...

Some deep soul searching ensued...

 

Thank you, that means a lot!

 

It's a common joke, having to look deep into your damaged soul after looking on a trans woman's body, because in your mind, somehow a beautiful person is made repulsive by circumstances of their birth and the steps they took to overcome them.

All of the most beautiful people I know are trans, but this isn't unexpected; we love others who remind us of the parts of ourselves we love. I love that I am trans, and so I love trans bodies. I know some cis people who have trans partners in loving relationships; despite the odds, almost 20% of marriages thrive after a transition. Women who thought they were straight find out they were bisexual when their partners transition, and I think it might be because they see reflected in their partner a love of womanhood they have as well. My ex hates most aspects of womanhood, and became very uncomfortable when her partner began reveling in it. I think it's how a lot of radical feminists become trans-exclusionary; they see trans women as defiling the inherent suffering of womanhood by choosing to and embracing it and enjoying it.

Anyway, I put this here because I thought your joke sucked and I wanted to try and elevate it a little.

 

Sorry about that, it wasn't intended as a slight on her.
No, she was incredibly beautiful, but at 12 years old it did cause me to to question my decision making. Like, don't help yourself to stuff you don't understand...

 

Buddy, trust me, I know that pain! I dug into my dad's sock drawer at 9 and pulled out His Special Polaroids