I am not conflicted. I lost most of my European family in the 1930s and 1940s when no one would take Jews. The St. Louis was turned away with 900 refugees on the spurious grounds that Nazi spies might have snuck in. There is a 2 year vetting process. This is hardly an open door process. And Trump's fantasies to the contrary, the number being brought in is outrageously small compared to the need. Imagine having a 2 year vetting process to buy a gun! And far far more American have been killed by Americans with guns than by any terrorist. Also point out that the acts of terror in Europe were carried out by Belgian and French citizens, not refugees. There is one reason to oppose, Further, and that is bigotry. Something you and I know a few things about. Whipping up fear and hate against someone who is an "other". Refugees generally make the best citizens. They are grateful for a chance at life.
I have been saying it for years. You can not apply western beliefs and expectations to people like that.