I need to find the happy medium of not letting my daughter go to things where date rape happens and not turning her into one of those hyper sheltered children that become sexual freaks later in life. God, raising kids isn't as easy as advertised.
This thread may have been a joke but I don't think the replies are. Sometimes I think almost everyone has been a victim to some degree.
I think one of the most important things is letting her know it's okay to talk about it, even if she isn't sure what happened is assault or even bad, talk about it to someone. What happened to me and what happened with Weinstein, the biggest problem is that no one said a damn thing. I've thought about that kid who fucked with me from time to time, did he go on to fuck with other kids? Would me saying anything have prevented that if he did?
I met a chick in San Antonio several years ago and went back to her place. I was doing her doggy style and then she farted. Does that count?
Never was messed with in that way. Had a close friend that was molested at the school pool by another guy. We used to go to the pool during the summer because it was a couple blocks away. Long story short, a guy a couple years older took my friend into a bathroom and touched his penis, and tried to get my friend to jerk him off. The guy who committed it went through hell though. Some of our buddies older brothers were in his grade and would ruthlessly ridicule him and call him every gay slur in the book. He did end up being gay. My buddy still has weird episodes about it. Just a shitty situation all around. What makes kids do shit like that to other kids? Seeing the behavior from parents? Or are they just that fucked up?
Had an ex gf get assaulted too. She was a freshman at OSU and had been drinking. She had a bf she was in the process of breaking up with. First week in the dorms and a football player (walk-on nobody) went into her room sober, while she was drunk, and had sex with her. She was scared of him the rest of the year. I think he was shared shitless she was gonna say something and turn him in but she never did.
It seemed a bit of a joke, if not completely. I really don't like these stories to be honest. I knew a girl who got pregnant after being attacked in highschool. I wanted to kill him. If I knew 100 percent he raped her I might have. How could I know? I believed her but I didn't know.
What's the most consistent thing in all of these posts? People are afraid to tell. The rape culture in our society has people scared of the victim blaming that occurs after you tell. Oh, she was drunk... Was she coherent enough to give consent? Oh, she wears tight clothes... IDGAF if you're in the MIDDLE of intercourse. If she says stop you fucking stop... Oh she's a slut... Is she your slut?
Never had a stop in the middle. Logically...stop. Can't swear on my life I would have.... at least when I was younger
Freshman year, there was a gay dude on our floor who would pretend to brush his teeth but would watch us shower in the communal dorm showers at an angle via the mirror. Totally obvious.
Maybe El Pres can share more, but it sounded like someone with special needs was being inappropriate with him. Not sure how it affected him, but guessing it was not as bad as someone that was in the same position but it was someone that had more power. I think all are inappropriate but think what the #MeToo objective is trying to highlight is where people with power (could be physically, chemically, or financially) abuse it and it does not get reported. I had a similiar experience where a girlfriend that I was about to dump woke me up for sex. She got aggresive and wanted to do it without a condom. I thought she would get the idea when I said no but she tried to muscle me. I was easily able to get her off of me and was only uncomfortable after the encounter. If it had been me trying the same thing with her, it would have been different.
I was told that I wasn't allowed to say "me too" or express any encounters I have had, because as a white male, I am privileged and expressing my story would only detract from the movement. So I must remain silent. No. Fucking. Joke.
It freaked me out. The athlete was an older person, probably in his 30s. He was a pretty big/strong guy, just not fully mentally developed. He had asked me to take him into the bathroom and was "scratching" his crotch area the whole time there and kept on asking to help him in the bathroom and signaling his hand to go into the stall, and I wasn't going to do that. He was in there a good 10-15 minutes, then I knocked to make sure he was ok, he came out with a full erection and then kept on following me and pointing at his dick trying to touch me with it. Like I said, I reported this to the coordinators, who looked like they were unsure of what to do and kind of brushed the whole thing off.
Wow. So also as a white privileged male, I have been immune to sexual assault this whole time? Guess I do not have to worry about my son anymore? Thanks for clarifying. For those that are brushing this off as a joke, I think the fact that nothing was done after you reported it has a whole lot of merit. His mental capacity changes the situation slightly but something should have been corrected. Betting that you are not the only person that he did this to and they may not have been able to defend themselves. By doing nothing, they made it more likely someone else would be assaulted.
Victim shaming. Got it. Its just all part of the problem. "You can't believe what she says based on her past behavior". Bravo.
The biggest troll on the forum started a #metoo thread and is surprised people think it's a joke. lmao
